Not a Last Resort
- Saturday, January 29 2011 @ 04:56 pm
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 1,523
One of the most common misconceptions about online dating is that it’s a “last resort” - somewhere you turn when more traditional methods of meeting people don’t work. While it’s true that online dating sites are a viable alternative if other methods aren’t working, to only consider them when all else has failed is doing online dating a massive disservice.
A friend of mine, “Ted,” recently created an online dating profile. Some of his other friends were surprised. “But you have no problem meeting women!” they said.
It’s true, Ted doesn’t have a hard time getting dates. However, he definitely hasn’t found the right person yet. And he’s come to realize that all the women he’s been meeting and dating have a certain “type.” In his words, “They’re the same person!”
Thus, Ted is utilizing an online dating site to find women outside his personal box, ones with different interests. Perhaps the new approach will work for him; I hope it will. Regardless, good for him for trying to change up his dating patterns. Online sites are a perfect way to do so.
There are other reasons to use online dating sites other than as a “last resort”: for example, getting a jump on meeting people as you’re getting ready to move to a new location. You can use them for finding other people in your vast community who share a specific, uncommon interest. And, of course, they’re particularly useful for those who have unusual or busy work schedules. In essence, online dating sites can be a one-stop-combo of classifieds, library bulletin boards, and singles bars.
Really, why wouldn’t you include an online dating site in your social repertoire? Of course, I’m preaching to the choir, but sometimes even those familiar with the benefits of online dating tend to perpetuate the stereotypes. Therefore, remember that we shouldn’t recommend online dating only to those who are having trouble; recommend it to those who are dating, period. Perhaps soon, the easiest, most logical option will also be the most popular!
A friend of mine, “Ted,” recently created an online dating profile. Some of his other friends were surprised. “But you have no problem meeting women!” they said.
It’s true, Ted doesn’t have a hard time getting dates. However, he definitely hasn’t found the right person yet. And he’s come to realize that all the women he’s been meeting and dating have a certain “type.” In his words, “They’re the same person!”
Thus, Ted is utilizing an online dating site to find women outside his personal box, ones with different interests. Perhaps the new approach will work for him; I hope it will. Regardless, good for him for trying to change up his dating patterns. Online sites are a perfect way to do so.
There are other reasons to use online dating sites other than as a “last resort”: for example, getting a jump on meeting people as you’re getting ready to move to a new location. You can use them for finding other people in your vast community who share a specific, uncommon interest. And, of course, they’re particularly useful for those who have unusual or busy work schedules. In essence, online dating sites can be a one-stop-combo of classifieds, library bulletin boards, and singles bars.
Really, why wouldn’t you include an online dating site in your social repertoire? Of course, I’m preaching to the choir, but sometimes even those familiar with the benefits of online dating tend to perpetuate the stereotypes. Therefore, remember that we shouldn’t recommend online dating only to those who are having trouble; recommend it to those who are dating, period. Perhaps soon, the easiest, most logical option will also be the most popular!
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