Don’t Want Kids: Online Dating Profiles for the Childfree
- Sunday, July 26 2009 @ 09:38 am
- Contributed by: EFoley
- Views: 11,692
The dating world can be tough enough as it is, but what if you hold an opinion that flies in the face of the whole “purpose” of dating? I’m talking about those folks who for whatever reason don’t want children. I’m one of them and prefer to refer to myself as “childfree” rather than “childless.” The latter assumes that I’m lacking children while the former expresses my freedom from them. It’s not that I hate kids; I actually love children and spent several years as a teacher. I just don’t want any of my own.
If you feel the same way, there are a couple things you should know to make your dating profile reflect your choice without setting people up to make incorrect assumptions about your character:
Don’t write directly about your childfree beliefs. This often comes off in the wrong way and may scare away some people who would have otherwise been interested in you.
Decide whether you want better quality matches or more matches. Then select your choice under “Wants Kids” accordingly. If you choose “Don’t want kids” you’ll get fewer matches, but they’ll all share your beliefs. If you choose “Not sure” you’ll get more matches, but there’s a chance they’ll start hearing a biological clock ticking one day.
When searching for potential matches, your first priority is to scan through those who don’t want children. Once you’ve exhausted those possibilities, switch to “Not sure.” Remember, there are many people out there who are on the edge of wanting / not wanting children.
Men dedicated to the childfree lifestyle should stop their search at the “Not sure” option. Ladies, here’s a secret for you – expand your search to include men who check “Someday.” Most men who check that option mean “Someday, if my wife wants them.” They want what you want, and if you want no kids, most of them would be perfectly fine with that.
Remember, you’re in the minority, so you’ll need to put a little more effort into your search. Keep a positive attitude and focus on the end result – no dirty diapers, sleeping through the night, and the freedom to do whatever you’d like with your soulmate!
If you feel the same way, there are a couple things you should know to make your dating profile reflect your choice without setting people up to make incorrect assumptions about your character:
Don’t write directly about your childfree beliefs. This often comes off in the wrong way and may scare away some people who would have otherwise been interested in you.
Decide whether you want better quality matches or more matches. Then select your choice under “Wants Kids” accordingly. If you choose “Don’t want kids” you’ll get fewer matches, but they’ll all share your beliefs. If you choose “Not sure” you’ll get more matches, but there’s a chance they’ll start hearing a biological clock ticking one day.
When searching for potential matches, your first priority is to scan through those who don’t want children. Once you’ve exhausted those possibilities, switch to “Not sure.” Remember, there are many people out there who are on the edge of wanting / not wanting children.
Men dedicated to the childfree lifestyle should stop their search at the “Not sure” option. Ladies, here’s a secret for you – expand your search to include men who check “Someday.” Most men who check that option mean “Someday, if my wife wants them.” They want what you want, and if you want no kids, most of them would be perfectly fine with that.
Remember, you’re in the minority, so you’ll need to put a little more effort into your search. Keep a positive attitude and focus on the end result – no dirty diapers, sleeping through the night, and the freedom to do whatever you’d like with your soulmate!
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