Matching a Confirmed Bachelor

For many, online dating sites are an excellent option because they fit any schedule. You can peruse profiles at three in the morning, or one in the afternoon. Naturally, you’ll have to make some compromises when it comes to actually scheduling a date, but with custom searches you’re more likely to find another night owl or swing schedule than you might otherwise be. But what about when you’re just as particular about dating at all? What if you’re not even sure you want to date at all?

Timothy has had some bad experiences in the past when it comes to love. He now knows what doesn’t work for him, but he fears it’s too late anyway. Beyond that, he’s been a “confirmed bachelor” for the majority of his life. He likes the idea of finding love, but he knows he’s set in his ways. Perhaps, he thinks, he should just give up altogether. What should Timothy do?

Ultimately, only Timothy knows if he’s really let go of his past and is truly ready to find someone new. However, let’s assume that Timothy truly is bitterness-free. For Timothy, there’s no ticking clock - he’s past the age where many feel the pressure to start a family, and he’s okay with that. He’s learned to be so self-sufficient that he’s not even sure he really needs a partner. He’s not looking to be rescued, or to rescue anyone. So in a sense, Timothy might have a few advantages.

You see, he can afford to simply keep an eye out for “just the right” match. Perhaps someone else who’s looking to test the waters slowly, who truly means they want to start off as good friends. The fact of the matter is, the world is filled with all types of people, but those who are on the fence about love are a bit further and far-between on dating sites devoted to... well, finding love. But that doesn’t mean they can’t be found! Since Timothy is in no mad rush, he can take his time, and only go on dates that seem like real possibilities.

Similarly, he should be honest about his needs on his own online profile. There’s no need to be rude about it and say something like “I’m not even sure I want to date,” but he can talk about the things he’ll likely value in a good match, like independence. He doesn’t need to appeal to as broad an audience as possible, because he has a pretty good idea of exactly what he wants, so why not start narrow? Of course, if he consistently gets mismatches, he may need to re-evaluate, but that’s true for anyone.

Timothy may be a “confirmed bachelor,” but that doesn’t mean he can’t find companionship and love. There are a wide range of lifestyle choices today. And with an online dating site, Timothy is all the more likely to find someone who matches his.