Living For Today
- Saturday, May 14 2011 @ 07:38 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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When you’ve experienced heartbreak or rejection, it can make you all the more gun-shy about the next relationship you start. A friend of mine, Steve, has been nearly driving himself crazy with his worries about the girl he’s been dating. “Well, sure, things seem to be going well. But things seemed to be going well last time.” Though he’s one of the least superstitious people I know, Steve eyes the calendar with suspicion and fear as he nears the “deadline” - the length of time of his last relationship.
Steve isn’t the only person I know who worries about what tomorrow may bring. It’s tempting for all of us to want reassurance about how things will end - after all, why invest all this time, energy and love if they’ll end badly? If only I knew I would really be with this person forever, I could just relax...
However, like just about everything else in life, no one knows how their relationship story will end. And why is that so much harder to accept than the fact that we don’t know what the future will bring about anything? Some people might sit and ponder the end of the world, for example, but most go about their day-to-day lives with barely a thought about it. A job might not last forever. Neither might our health. But it seems silly to waste the moments of happiness worrying about what might happen years down the road, doesn’t it?
Now, this doesn’t mean that you should never think about the future, or plan accordingly. Pretty much every adult couple sits down and discusses the future at some point. However, I believe there is a certain amount of “day-to-day” thinking that has to occur in a relationship. Whether or not things will end tragically, enjoy what you have right now.
If you take your relationship day-by-day, focusing on maintaining your current level of happiness, those “deadlines” might just fly by without your notice. And remember: it’s far better to have a bank of happy memories than fear and worry.
Steve isn’t the only person I know who worries about what tomorrow may bring. It’s tempting for all of us to want reassurance about how things will end - after all, why invest all this time, energy and love if they’ll end badly? If only I knew I would really be with this person forever, I could just relax...
However, like just about everything else in life, no one knows how their relationship story will end. And why is that so much harder to accept than the fact that we don’t know what the future will bring about anything? Some people might sit and ponder the end of the world, for example, but most go about their day-to-day lives with barely a thought about it. A job might not last forever. Neither might our health. But it seems silly to waste the moments of happiness worrying about what might happen years down the road, doesn’t it?
Now, this doesn’t mean that you should never think about the future, or plan accordingly. Pretty much every adult couple sits down and discusses the future at some point. However, I believe there is a certain amount of “day-to-day” thinking that has to occur in a relationship. Whether or not things will end tragically, enjoy what you have right now.
If you take your relationship day-by-day, focusing on maintaining your current level of happiness, those “deadlines” might just fly by without your notice. And remember: it’s far better to have a bank of happy memories than fear and worry.
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