Learn to Pick and Choose Dates with Potential Online

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  • Friday, March 26 2010 @ 08:46 am
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Online dating is a lot like eating at a buffet restaurant in the sense that the selection can be overwhelming and leave you wanting to pick more than you can chew. A virtual buffet of so many potential dates can make it hard to decide who you should date and who you shouldn’t. You’ll have moments when there could be literally dozens of great candidates filling your inbox and times when pickins’ are so slim that you want to give up. You’ll need to learn to pace yourself as well as how to pick and choose dates with potential is a must if you want to get the most out of your experience with online dating and stay on the path to true love without wasting too much time veering off course along the way.

The best way to choose dates with potential is to get a good grasp on what you really want in the first place. Okay, you want to date, but do you want to date in hopes of finding a real connection or do you just want to date for fun? If it’s love and a connection that you’re after then don’t waste time on those who aren’t looking for the same thing that you are. It may sound like a no-brainer, but you’d be surprised how many men and women will connect with someone online who looks great and seems perfect “if only...” Hoping that someone will change is never a good idea and will inevitably prove a waste of time, not to mention potentially heartbreaking! So if he or she seems perfect but isn’t looking for a commitment and you are, then save yourself the time and the hurt and move on. Don’t get sidetracked from what you really want.

While you don’t want to waste time dating people who aren’t looking for the same things that you are, you do want to keep an open mind and not limit yourself too much. Think of the traits that are deal breakers for you and be reasonable. If you want kids then stay away from someone who doesn’t. If you want someone who shares your religious beliefs, then seek them out and don’t bother meeting anyone who doesn’t share your beliefs. But, if you have a thing for blonds, well, maybe it’s time to let up on the hair color and open yourself up to brunettes and redheads that just may meet all of your other and more important criteria. Keeping an open mind broadens your horizons and just may lead you to a diamond in the rough.

Finally, when trying to spot dates with potential be sure to look for those who seem serious about meeting and aren’t playing games. You want someone who calls when they say they will and wants to meet you as much as you want to meet them. It takes two to tango so make sure that you only invest time on those who want to dance with you!