Is It a No, or a Maybe?
- Monday, November 14 2011 @ 09:30 am
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 1,406
If only we could have flashing signs that gave away our true feelings and intentions - asking someone for their number, or a date, would be so much easier! Alas, real life is not usually so easy.
Take my friend Steve, for example. Steve recently met a girl at his workplace. He asked her on a date. She responded that she was too busy to date - but then she friended him on several social media sites. Steve couldn’t be more confused. Was she simply being honest when she told him she was too busy? Is she simply being polite now, friending him?
Of course, it’s not possible for any third-party observer to figure out what’s really going on inside her head; we can’t be sure any more than Steve can. Still, here’s the general vibe I’m getting from the story: Not Now.
You see, Steve only recently started his new job. He barely knows this co-worker. And in turn, she doesn’t really know him. Perhaps she’s not used to being cold-called for a date. Maybe she’s cautious about new people. Alternatively, maybe she recently got out of a relationship and isn’t quite ready to date yet. Or maybe she truly is busy with life and work and doesn’t want to complicate things further at this point.
However, by adding him on her social media sites, she’s opening the door for a chance to get to know him. If she were truly turned off, she probably wouldn’t have asked him, specifically, for his contact details (which, apparently, she did). This doesn’t seem, to me, like a polite consolation prize; this is a potential future opportunity.
At any rate, the ball is pretty much in her court. What should Steve do in the meantime? Get to know her, be honest and open, and perhaps she’ll become a new friend. More importantly, what he shouldn’t do is put his life on hold; it’s perfectly fine for him to continue to look for other people. And who knows? If they’re truly compatible, maybe something will develop in the future.
Take my friend Steve, for example. Steve recently met a girl at his workplace. He asked her on a date. She responded that she was too busy to date - but then she friended him on several social media sites. Steve couldn’t be more confused. Was she simply being honest when she told him she was too busy? Is she simply being polite now, friending him?
Of course, it’s not possible for any third-party observer to figure out what’s really going on inside her head; we can’t be sure any more than Steve can. Still, here’s the general vibe I’m getting from the story: Not Now.
You see, Steve only recently started his new job. He barely knows this co-worker. And in turn, she doesn’t really know him. Perhaps she’s not used to being cold-called for a date. Maybe she’s cautious about new people. Alternatively, maybe she recently got out of a relationship and isn’t quite ready to date yet. Or maybe she truly is busy with life and work and doesn’t want to complicate things further at this point.
However, by adding him on her social media sites, she’s opening the door for a chance to get to know him. If she were truly turned off, she probably wouldn’t have asked him, specifically, for his contact details (which, apparently, she did). This doesn’t seem, to me, like a polite consolation prize; this is a potential future opportunity.
At any rate, the ball is pretty much in her court. What should Steve do in the meantime? Get to know her, be honest and open, and perhaps she’ll become a new friend. More importantly, what he shouldn’t do is put his life on hold; it’s perfectly fine for him to continue to look for other people. And who knows? If they’re truly compatible, maybe something will develop in the future.
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