Is He Sending Mixed Signals?

You've been dating a guy for the past month, and clicked from the start. There was so much chemistry between you it was hard to ignore, so you jumped right in. But just as quickly as you two seemed to hit it off, he has suddenly becomes less and less available, and completely unreliable. One minute he's telling you you're amazing, and the next he's cancelling plans at the last minute or ignoring your text messages.

Sound familiar? Maybe you're beating yourself up right now trying to figure out what happened. Maybe you're asking yourself - did I say something wrong? Is he really just too busy with work? Does he even want to go out anymore?

If your date runs hot and cold - one minute he's totally into you and the next he's not returning a text, you have to wonder what's going on. It can be frustrating and confusing, but there are reasons behind this behavior.

Following are some possible explanations:

He's immature. It's possible that he's not ready for a real relationship, especially if he's in his early twenties and wanting to explore his options a bit. If this is the case, and you want something more serious, it's better to move on. You're in different places in your life, so don't try to force a relationship.

He's a player. Many women ignore the red flags because players can be so good at making a woman feel special. But if he keeps you at a distance, or can only have a relationship on his terms, then you know you're dealing with someone who's not being completely honest about his intentions.

He needs time. Most guys aren't convinced that they want a relationship after only a couple of dates, even if the chemistry is there. Ask yourself if you come on too strong, or if you're looking for some kind of commitment too soon. Sometimes people can be turned off quickly by the smell of desperation. All relationships need some time to build, so don't get carried away with the heady chemistry of the first few dates. Slow it down and allow the relationship to unfold more slowly - see if it's truly right for both of you.

He doesn't know what he wants. Has he dated a lot of women? Did any of these relationships last? If not, then it's likely because he's not very clear about what he wants from a relationship. Maybe he knows the physical types he's attracted to, but he hasn't considered what he needs from a woman emotionally, which is important, too.

Most importantly, listen to your gut. Are his actions consistent with his words? This is how you know if a good relationship with your date is possible.