Is He Keeping You at a Distance?

You've been dating a guy for a few months, and are really into him. You get along well and are starting to spend more time together. You've introduced him to your friends and family and they got along well, too. The problem? He hasn't introduced you to his world.

Are you wondering how he feels about you? Do you sense that he's keeping you at a distance?

Sometimes timing in relationships can be tricky. You both might be moving at different speeds, and that's okay. It can take a while to get to know someone and feel comfortable enough to get to this next step. But sometimes there are signs that he's keeping you at a distance and doesn't intend to introduce you or take your relationship to the next level.

Following are some things to consider:

Are your expectations in check? Sometimes, we have unrealistic expectations of relationships - and this includes how soon to meet the family. It's important to really get to know each other before taking that next important step - and if you've only been dating a short time, he might not be ready. Also, consider the status of your relationship. Are you exclusive? Or have you left things open? If you haven't really defined where you are, it's better to have that conversation first, before wanting to meet family.

The holidays aren't the best time to meet family. Another important consideration is timing. If you're expecting to meet his family because that's what people do during the holidays, you'll likely be disappointed. While it's great if he's excited and wants to spend the holidays together, the timing is also important. Bringing a girlfriend home for Christmas implies a more serious relationship, and if yours isn't there yet, then it's a little awkward to answer personal questions while you're all sitting around the Christmas tree opening presents. The holidays are about tradition and family, and it's a very intimate time. It's better if you both wait to introduce each other to your families when it's right for you, and don't feel pressure from the holiday season.

Is he evasive? I like to tell people to listen to your gut, because it's usually right! If you feel that he's hiding something, pay attention. If his behavior is inconsistent (he never calls you on the weekend, he goes days without returning a text), then likely he doesn't want to integrate you into his life for a reason. Maybe he's already in a relationship, or maybe he's still active on online dating sites. Either way, it's important to be honest about what you want and expect from a relationship. Talk to him, and ask him what he wants, too. If you're not on the same page, it's better to know that sooner rather than later.