In Perfect Agreement
- Thursday, January 20 2011 @ 09:40 am
- Contributed by: Jet
- Views: 1,837
So you’ve finally met someone who seems to have everything in common with you. You have the same interests, and the ones you don’t share don’t scare each other off. You both think tapioca is creepy, and you both tune in to the same bad reality show as a guilty pleasure. Except, wait - your seemingly-perfect new significant other loves that movie, the only one that ever made you walk out of the theater. And though you share the same basic views in politics and religion, some of the finer points are drastically different. Oh no! What’s happening to your perfect new relationship?
When we first meet someone, we’re looking to connect; we’re seeking out the things we have in common. Our commonalities stand out way more than our differences - think about the importance we might place on the fact that we both remember the same obscure cartoon, or that we both prefer to drink coffee before dinner. “Meant to be,” right? And those ten million small differences? Insignificant.
Over time, however, more differences begin to pop up, mostly because your conversations become more varied and in-depth. You move past the stage of coming together as one unit - A Couple - and begin to assert your individuality within the unit.
And really, this is not a bad thing! Yes, it’s convenient when your opinions and experiences match up in every aspect, but it would certainly get boring if you just agreed all the time. It can be shocking when you have the first difference of opinion, or even the first argument, but remember, any good relationship can live through a disagreement - and no one gets along all the time.
Also, remember that you’re interested in the person for who they are, not in a clone of yourself. You should respect your partner and learn from each other - not force one to mold after the other. Ultimately, it’s how you handle your differences, not your similarities, that will determine the health and longevity of your relationship.
When we first meet someone, we’re looking to connect; we’re seeking out the things we have in common. Our commonalities stand out way more than our differences - think about the importance we might place on the fact that we both remember the same obscure cartoon, or that we both prefer to drink coffee before dinner. “Meant to be,” right? And those ten million small differences? Insignificant.
Over time, however, more differences begin to pop up, mostly because your conversations become more varied and in-depth. You move past the stage of coming together as one unit - A Couple - and begin to assert your individuality within the unit.
And really, this is not a bad thing! Yes, it’s convenient when your opinions and experiences match up in every aspect, but it would certainly get boring if you just agreed all the time. It can be shocking when you have the first difference of opinion, or even the first argument, but remember, any good relationship can live through a disagreement - and no one gets along all the time.
Also, remember that you’re interested in the person for who they are, not in a clone of yourself. You should respect your partner and learn from each other - not force one to mold after the other. Ultimately, it’s how you handle your differences, not your similarities, that will determine the health and longevity of your relationship.
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