Hypnosis To Improve Confidence With The Opposite Sex

A lot of people will agree that most people are attracted by confidence. This boils down to our prehistoric instincts, which under the surface are still as strong as ever. People often want a confident partner in order to feel safe, and they will intuitively be attracted to these qualities.

Fortunately confidence is not something we are born with. It is something that can be developed throughout our lives by our life's experiences. Our confidence can also be affected by negative experiences. Confidence levels subtly change from one day to the next, and even from one moment to the next. Hypnosis can help them confidence levels move in the right direction, up.

As you may already know, the dating game is not always easy. You might have some success with the opposite sex for a while, and your confidence levels begin to soar, only to have a bad experience and be knocked right back down. When you have had some success, your confidence levels usually rise, breeding even more success. However after a knock back, you can become stuck in a vicious cycle of failure.

You don't need to waste any more time stuck in a negative loop. Hypnosis can help you by reprogramming your subconscious mind. This is the non logical emotional part of your mind that is responsible for your drives and fears. The part that is ultimately responsible for you being afraid of the opposite sex. A kind friend may try and help you by explaining that there is nothing to be afraid of. They may tell you that women won't bite you. You are already well aware of this in your logical conscious mind.

However it is not your logical conscious mind that makes you feel uneasy at the prospect of approaching a member of the opposite sex. It is your irrational, emotional subconscious part that makes you fidget. Unless your good friend is a hypnotherapist, then they are unlikely to be able to communicate with this part of the brain. When thinking rationally, it is obvious that you have little to actually fear in terms of your safety and welfare when approaching the opposite sex. Your conscious mind already knows this. It therefore doesn't matter how many times someone reminds your conscious self of this because you consciously know this anyway. It's just that niggling feeling underneath which cannot always be explained.

The fear of approaching the opposite sex has it's similarities with phobias such as the common fear of spiders. You logically know there is no reason to have this fear, but you can't help but feel it. No matter how much someone tells you that there is nothing more to fear from a spider, you cannot help what you feel. Someone could sit with you and explain over an over again about how the spider has more to fear of you than you have of the spider, but it won't usually make any difference.

In order to remove a fear, the subconscious mind needs to be communicated with, and hypnotherapy is an excellent tool for achieving this.

The unfortunate thing about phobias is that people begin to avoid the thing that they fear, which ultimately re enforces and strengthens it. Often the more you avoid the trigger (the thing you fear) the stronger and stronger it becomes. What may start out as a mild fear can develop into a more chronic fear through repetitive avoidance. The cycle needs to be stopped as soon as possible before it gets any worse.

A hypnotherapist can use many techniques to help stop this cycle and help you gain confidence with women. They can for example guide you through visualisation techniques where you imagine being very calm and confident in the presence of the opposite sex. When you wake up, your subconscious mind will believe that this really happened. Consciously you will know that it was visualization, but that doesn't matter - it is the subconscious part of the mind that you need to convince, and it is relatively easy to do this with hypnosis.

You can do this yourself by getting yourself nice and relaxed and simply imagining yourself being very successful with the opposite sex. Just fantasize about being so very confident and bolding talking to them. Be positive at all times and imagine them loving talking to you - very interested and very flirtatious. This will do wonders for your inner self confidence.

This isn't the only way that hypnotherapy can help. There are many other tactics which can be employed. For instance a good clinical hypnotherapist can also help change your perception of the dating game. They can help you to deeply realize that not every person will be attracted to you, just like you are not attracted to every one either. This is fine and normal. No matter how charming and attractive you are, you will never attract every one, no one can.

To some point the dating game is a numbers game. The more you approach, the more likely you are going to receive knock backs. BUT crucially the more likely you are also going to receive positive responses. If you approach no one, then nothing will happen either way. A good clinical hypnotherapist can help you put this into perspective, and not allow these blips to effect your confidence. Instead you can gain confidence with every positive experience, and simply ignore any negative experience. Over time you will then get into an ever strengthening cycle of confidence - becoming more and more confident as every day passes.

So if you want to break free from that old cycle and look the opposite sex in the eye with a calm and confident smile, then hypnosis is for you. Hypnosis can help free you from the shackles of the cycle of fear, and stride confidently up the ladder of success. It can unlock all those deep fears that you hide away, and bring out that glowing, shining confident and attractive self for the whole world to see.

By Jon Rhodes. He is a former professional musician as well as one of the UK's leading clinical hypnotherapists.