How to Avoid the Waiting Game

You've started dating a new guy and you're smitten. He's handsome, smart, successful, and a number of other wonderful things (fill in the blanks here). However, you've just started dating, so you're afraid to ask him anything about what he wants in a relationship - after all, you don't want to look needy.

Maybe he's seeing other people, and maybe he's not looking for anything serious - but maybe he is. You're not sure, but you don't want to ask him. While this may keep your relationship moving right along in the "fun" zone, the more attached you get to him, the more anxiety you feel about where the relationship is headed.

Before you drive yourself crazy with speculation about what his intentions are, follow these simple steps to keep things in perspective and keep you headed in the right direction for the long-term:

Keep dating other people. That's right, as long as there's no commitment you should keep your options open. Sometimes the timing isn't right no matter how great the relationship might be, so why close yourself off from other opportunities? Instead of waiting by the phone or rescheduling plans to be with him, put yourself first. Keep dating other people, and keep your plans.

Be honest. It's amazing how many women are afraid to say what they want in a new relationship for fear of driving a man away. While I think it's too bold and inappropriate to talk about marriage and kids right away, I do think it's important to let your guy know that you're looking for something long-term and not just a short-term fling. If he isn't on the same page, then it's better to move on. If he's interested in a relationship, then take things one step at a time. Don't be aggressive about it.

Listen. If he mentions that he just ended a long-term relationship and isn't interested in anything serious, take him at his word. Don't assume you can change his feelings because the chemistry is so amazing between you. He is trying to let you know what he wants, so don't read what you want into it.

Don't be so available. I'm not a fan of "The Rules," but I don't think you should wait in your apartment for someone to call you back. You might feel amazing when you're with him, but it matters how you feel when he's not around, too. Is he treating you with respect and consideration by calling you back or initiating dates? Or are you doing all the work? These early signs show how he might treat you in the relationship, so pay attention.

Relationships aren't built in a day. Much like my first point, I advise you to keep dating others while you date your new love interest. It takes time to really get to know someone, so give it a chance to build before you start doling out ultimatums or questions about the future. Sit back, date, and enjoy the process!