How Much Is That Doggy in the Window?
- Monday, May 17 2010 @ 08:10 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Have you ever thought about adopting a pet? Nowadays the internet makes it easy to find breeders and rescues in the next state, without ever leaving your home. Still, most sites advise that you meet the animal before making a final decision. After all, sometimes you'll just click with an animal, and sometimes you won't, no matter how adorable and perfect it seemed on the site.
For most people, this seems like a logical approach. Still, there are those who would buy their pets sight unseen. More often than not, they're stuck with a less-than-ideal pet for the next ten years, or worse, they'll abandon it.
It's the same in the dating world. There are those who want to move way too quickly, whether it's asking someone out in the first email or moving across the country to be with someone you've never met. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes they discover their perfect match actually came from a puppy mill.
Trust me when I say you do not want to be one of these people, the kind that are overly emotionally invested. For one thing, if you're ready to move in together after the first date, it gives the impression that you're rather careless about your heart. If you don't come off as clingy or needy, you might well come off insincere.
Let's say you meet someone, and you feel, without a shadow of a doubt, that they are the perfect person for you. If you're so sure of your eventual success, why rush things? If you're so perfect, you'll probably still be perfect a month or two from now. If your relationship is indestructible, even though you've never met, then a meeting will not destroy you.
Remember, too, that a relationship takes two, and sometimes the two parties are not on the same page. You might think it's love at first sight, whereas your partner might only think there's potential. Move too fast and you could scare them off altogether.
Above all, a relationship has to work in person as well as online. Just as you want to meet that puppy before making a commitment, so too should you want to check out your potential match. Chemistry is a tricky thing, and we are, after all, part of the animal kingdom.
For most people, this seems like a logical approach. Still, there are those who would buy their pets sight unseen. More often than not, they're stuck with a less-than-ideal pet for the next ten years, or worse, they'll abandon it.
It's the same in the dating world. There are those who want to move way too quickly, whether it's asking someone out in the first email or moving across the country to be with someone you've never met. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes they discover their perfect match actually came from a puppy mill.
Trust me when I say you do not want to be one of these people, the kind that are overly emotionally invested. For one thing, if you're ready to move in together after the first date, it gives the impression that you're rather careless about your heart. If you don't come off as clingy or needy, you might well come off insincere.
Let's say you meet someone, and you feel, without a shadow of a doubt, that they are the perfect person for you. If you're so sure of your eventual success, why rush things? If you're so perfect, you'll probably still be perfect a month or two from now. If your relationship is indestructible, even though you've never met, then a meeting will not destroy you.
Remember, too, that a relationship takes two, and sometimes the two parties are not on the same page. You might think it's love at first sight, whereas your partner might only think there's potential. Move too fast and you could scare them off altogether.
Above all, a relationship has to work in person as well as online. Just as you want to meet that puppy before making a commitment, so too should you want to check out your potential match. Chemistry is a tricky thing, and we are, after all, part of the animal kingdom.
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