He never called back. Now what?
- Tuesday, April 27 2010 @ 08:45 am
- Contributed by: kellyseal
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You met him in line at Starbucks last week, and the chemistry was intense. You exchanged numbers and two days later, found yourselves at a romantic restaurant swapping seductive glances over wine and pasta.
Excited about the possibility of this new relationship, you hastily called him a day later to plan your next date. He didn’t pick up the phone, so you left a message, asking him to call you back.
He never called back.
You may be agonizing over why…things were going so well, and there was so much chemistry. You may wonder what you did wrong. The short answer to that is: likely, you did nothing wrong. There are many reasons that guys do not call back, so the next time you find yourself in this position, remember the following:
• You were probably not the only girl he was dating. Many guys date several girls at the same time, but when they meet one that really holds their interest, the other girls drop off the radar. Better you find out early on rather then when you were already invested. Besides, unless you’re exclusive, you both are allowed to date around.
• He just got out of a relationship. Some guys date on the rebound after ending a long-term relationship. There is nothing wrong with this, but it may explain his erratic behavior. If he senses that you might want something more, he is likely to steer clear.
• Maybe the fireworks weren’t there after all. Sure, you may have left swooning over him, but maybe the feeling wasn’t mutual. Though he should call and let you know that he’s “just not that into you”, remember that he might not feel comfortable breaking the news to you, and so he just doesn't respond.
• The ex is in the picture. Perhaps he broke up with his ex, but she was still hanging around the periphery of the relationship, and called him again just when he met you.
Whatever the case, don’t take it personally. You wouldn’t want to date a man who was not in a place to move forward in a relationship with you. Time to let it go and move on to the next.
Excited about the possibility of this new relationship, you hastily called him a day later to plan your next date. He didn’t pick up the phone, so you left a message, asking him to call you back.
He never called back.
You may be agonizing over why…things were going so well, and there was so much chemistry. You may wonder what you did wrong. The short answer to that is: likely, you did nothing wrong. There are many reasons that guys do not call back, so the next time you find yourself in this position, remember the following:
• You were probably not the only girl he was dating. Many guys date several girls at the same time, but when they meet one that really holds their interest, the other girls drop off the radar. Better you find out early on rather then when you were already invested. Besides, unless you’re exclusive, you both are allowed to date around.
• He just got out of a relationship. Some guys date on the rebound after ending a long-term relationship. There is nothing wrong with this, but it may explain his erratic behavior. If he senses that you might want something more, he is likely to steer clear.
• Maybe the fireworks weren’t there after all. Sure, you may have left swooning over him, but maybe the feeling wasn’t mutual. Though he should call and let you know that he’s “just not that into you”, remember that he might not feel comfortable breaking the news to you, and so he just doesn't respond.
• The ex is in the picture. Perhaps he broke up with his ex, but she was still hanging around the periphery of the relationship, and called him again just when he met you.
Whatever the case, don’t take it personally. You wouldn’t want to date a man who was not in a place to move forward in a relationship with you. Time to let it go and move on to the next.
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