He is in Love, But You’re Not so Sure

Relationships often times aren't so straightforward. Sometimes you feel in love and happy around your boyfriend, and others you aren't so sure you want to be with him. Maybe he has bad habits you can't overlook, or maybe there's an underlying doubt about the relationship that prevents you from moving forward. Couples don't always move at the same pace, so it's important to give yourselves time to figure things out along the way, especially if the relationship is new.

While it would be great to fall in love at the same time, with both of you on the same page for where things are headed, this isn't usually how it works. People are different and operate on their own timetables, so it's good to understand where you are first before panicking and heading for the exit. Following are some guidelines if you're wondering whether you're in love or not, or if you should stay or go:

Take your time. Is the relationship new? Then you're just getting to know each other and it's okay to take some time to see if your feelings develop into something more substantial. Some of us need more time - we're more hesitant, especially if we've been hurt. Don't be worried if you're not feeling love at first sight. Lasting love evolves differently for each person, so don't think the relationship is doomed because you're not in love yet. Just enjoy each other's company and see how things evolve.

Set boundaries. If he's declaring his love for you after date three, then you might want to let him know to back off. There's no need to place that kind of pressure on a relationship in the beginning when you really don't know each other anyway, so don't feel obligated to reciprocate. Give yourself (and your date) some time - there are no "timetables" or limits, despite what many people may tell you. Also, know where you stand when it comes to sex. If you're not sure about your feelings, don't send mixed messages by sleeping with him and then disappearing. Instead, communicate.

Look inside. If indecision is a pattern for you, there may be another reason for your uncertainty. Are you afraid of being hurt? Have you closed yourself off emotionally before? Or is there something about this particular person that you don't trust? Ask yourself the tough questions and listen to your instincts.

Give yourself permission to leave. If you've been dating a while and you still don't feel that spark or connection that you desire, don't talk yourself into staying. It's not a good idea to enter into a committed relationship with uncertainty and doubt - it only leads to more. Don't be afraid to call it quits if that's what is best for you. It might be hard, but it will only get harder as time goes on.