Have An Adventure Today
- Saturday, August 06 2011 @ 09:43 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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When you’re first getting to know someone, it can be tempting to fall into tried-and-true dating habits: staying in, going to same familiar places, developing a routine. While there’s nothing wrong with this, it might be a good idea to throw in something a little more challenging, right from the beginning - an adventure, something with a bit of stress and excitement.
Why? Well, one of the simplest reasons is that you don’t want to wait until you’ve been in a relationship for months before you see how your partner handles the slightest bit of stress. Maybe you’ll find you work extremely well together. Maybe you’ll find that your partner is an very poor loser, or that traveling stresses them out. Maybe you’ll find that you’re the one who doesn’t function very well without an exact plan to follow. Are any of these relationship-breakers? Absolutely not - but it’s good to have a well-developed and practical picture of each other and your relationship, to be aware of both the good and the bad aspects.
On the other hand, you might find that the two of you make a great problem-solving team or fantastic partners-in-adventure. Tackling a fun challenge together, early on in your relationship, could actually help promote a feeling of togetherness, as you and your partner develop as a “team” - the two of you against all else. If you find that getting lost in the mountains together or taking on a rock climbing wall doesn’t work for you, that’s fine; you can work on finding other things that do. But if it does, you’ve found activities that could bring you closer together than seeing a movie or having coffee.
There’s nothing wrong with traditional dates and activities - but try not to leave the fun, out-of-the-box ideas until you’re trying to “spice up” your dating life. Having an adventure together, whether it’s a road trip to see a concert or urban geocaching, could be an eye-opening experience or bring new depth to your relationship - and could be just plain fun!
Why? Well, one of the simplest reasons is that you don’t want to wait until you’ve been in a relationship for months before you see how your partner handles the slightest bit of stress. Maybe you’ll find you work extremely well together. Maybe you’ll find that your partner is an very poor loser, or that traveling stresses them out. Maybe you’ll find that you’re the one who doesn’t function very well without an exact plan to follow. Are any of these relationship-breakers? Absolutely not - but it’s good to have a well-developed and practical picture of each other and your relationship, to be aware of both the good and the bad aspects.
On the other hand, you might find that the two of you make a great problem-solving team or fantastic partners-in-adventure. Tackling a fun challenge together, early on in your relationship, could actually help promote a feeling of togetherness, as you and your partner develop as a “team” - the two of you against all else. If you find that getting lost in the mountains together or taking on a rock climbing wall doesn’t work for you, that’s fine; you can work on finding other things that do. But if it does, you’ve found activities that could bring you closer together than seeing a movie or having coffee.
There’s nothing wrong with traditional dates and activities - but try not to leave the fun, out-of-the-box ideas until you’re trying to “spice up” your dating life. Having an adventure together, whether it’s a road trip to see a concert or urban geocaching, could be an eye-opening experience or bring new depth to your relationship - and could be just plain fun!
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