For the Guys: Making a Good Impression Before the First Date

Dating can be stressful, especially if you're looking to impress. There are plenty of ways to ensure you get started on the right foot...even before a first date takes place. It doesn't take much to make a woman feel special, especially if you show her you're interested and you're a man of your word. Following are some ways to make a good impression before the first date (or even second or third):

• Ask her out. Yes, that's right. Don't call her to see if she wants to "hang out" or "meet for a drink sometime"...call her and ask her out on a real date for a specific day and time. This one gesture goes a long way in showing her that you're interested and not just looking for a casual fling or friendship.
• Don't ask her to pick the place. I can't tell you how many times guys would ask me out and then ask if I could pick the restaurant, bar, etc. where we'd meet. This got me into trouble in several ways: the place was either too far away, too expensive, or not a "good vibe". If you are working within a certain budget or looking for a specific type of place, pick it! Whoever does the asking does the planning. And don't be upset if you ask her to choose and it's not a place you like. You lost your chance to complain when you put the responsibility on her.
• Don't rely on texting. I know many people feel that texting is the only way they can communicate, but it doesn't work so well for dating. If you want to ask a woman out on a first date, pick up the phone and call her. You can confirm the place, time, etc. via text, but don't initiate a date that way. Also, don't text her at 8pm and ask if she can meet you then. It shows her you're not that interested.
• Don't be a flake. Maybe your work schedule is unpredictable, so you have to change or cancel your date at the last minute. If you do cancel, make sure you reschedule for another date and time right away. If you leave things vague (i.e. "let's touch base next week") you might lose your chance because she may assume you're not that interested and move on.
• Dress for success. Maybe it's because I live in southern California, but there are many men here who show up to dates wearing board shorts and flip flops. If this is as dressed up as it gets for you, you may want to reconsider your wardrobe for dating. I don't expect or want a suit or jacket, but it does impress me when a man puts some effort into looking good...(i.e. hair is groomed and he's wearing clothes that are more current than 1997). If you are unsure, ask a female friend for help.