Going Hybrid

The similarities between online dating sites and social networks are many and varied. Now that we’re used to communicating even with close family and friends via the internet, we’re even more comfortable and confident about the idea of using a site to find someone with whom to meet. The line between “the internet” and “real life” is more blurred than ever, and social networking has contributed to this greatly. For some, the natural next step is to combine the two, with an added dash of the other technology that has shaped the last several years - the mobile app. But are these new hybrids right for you?

The answer is different for every person, but there are a few factors to consider. If you’re considering a new type of dating medium, the first thing to check is exactly what kind of information you’ll be sharing. For example, some sites encourage you to link your Facebook profile. Because we’re so used to sharing our online lives with those close to us, linking your profile might not seem that strange. However, living our lives online means that our profiles are rife with private details and clues about our everyday routines. If you do choose to share such information with a dating app, make sure you’re comfortable with privacy options on both mediums.

Some apps reveal your actual, current location. Again, it’s best to really familiarize yourself with what that means - can you turn it off when you’re at home? How specific will the app be in telling prospective dates where you are?

There’s also the issue of immediacy to consider. Some love mobile dating apps because it allows them to be more spontaneous in seeking love - going for that chance meeting instead of something carefully scheduled. Others dislike that aspect; they like to have time to consider their options before taking that plunge. An app that tells them they have to act immediately only makes them agitated.

Still others want to be able to completely ‘disconnect’ from the internet during their time off. They like the ability to visit traditional dating sites on their schedule, when they’re in the proper headspace. As one person said, “I don’t have email on my phone because I don’t want to be interrupted with business while I’m at home - why would I want to be bothered with home business at work?”

Only you can decide if a mobile or social dating service is what’s right for you. By considering your preferences, personality type and tendencies, you can best use technology to aid you in finding love - without letting it drive you crazy along the way.