Finding Long-Term Love

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  • Thursday, July 19 2012 @ 08:24 am
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Some people have no problems having a romantic fling, but they run into trouble when it comes to finding a committed relationship. Well, when it comes to finding a long-term relationship, several requirements must be met - the basic ones that go along with any relationship, and extra factors as well. Perhaps some who have problems finding long-term love are adept at some of the requirements, but not all - so let’s give the most important ones a look.

First, there must be mutual attraction and chemistry. This is pretty much required for any romantic encounter, but that shouldn’t diminish its importance. Lust can diminish over time (or wax and wane), so the stronger base you have in the beginning, the better. And chemistry plays such a big part in the “first impressions” department - it’s hard to even get to the other qualities and considerations if there’s no spark to begin with.

Next, there must be mutual respect. When there’s respect in a relationship, other, positive qualities tend to fall in line naturally: honesty, communication. Some relationship guides try to make this all more complicated than it needs to be, talking about a balance of power, alpha males, job status, and so on, but whether you’re talking about jobs, morals, political preference, or almost anything else, it can usually be boiled down to respect.

Finally, the timing must work out. Yes, it’s entirely possible to find someone who might be a great fit... but whose heart has recently been broken. Or maybe they’re about to go on a mission trip for the next five years. Or perhaps they’ve joined a convent. It can be terribly sad to let a great catch go, and some hurdles are able to be overcome, but the fact of the matter is if the timing isn’t right, it can effectively cripple a relationship, so it’s better to just let it go and maybe revisit it at a later date. Remember, there’s not really such a thing as only “one perfect person” for you! The best thing you can do for your potential-but-doomed match, and yourself, is allow you both to find people that make you happy in the here and now.

To find someone who meets all three of these important factors can sometimes seem as likely as a blue moon - but remember, people fall in love and form long-term relationships every day! And your chances might improve simply by being more aware of what you should be looking for. It’s great to find someone with whom you share common interests or who has smoldering eyes, but do they have the core components for long-term love?