Dreamer Dans and Safety Sallies
- Thursday, August 02 2012 @ 08:26 pm
- Contributed by: Jet
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It seems that when the subject of online dating comes up, most people tend to fall into two camps. Chances are you’ve met one of each kind - you might even fit into one of these groups yourself. The thing is, you don’t have to belong solely to either party - in fact, you probably want to strive for a mix of the two.
We’ll call one group the Dreamer Dans; they’re all about throwing caution to the wind, finding True Love. These are the ones who might advocate moving across the country to live with someone you’ve never met. On the plus side, they’re ready to root for love, so they’ll be supportive if they’re a friend or family member. On the other hand, they encourage rash behavior - and they might also be the type to focus on a fairy-tale “story” rather than finding an appropriate match.
The opposing group can be dubbed the Safety Sallies; they’re pretty sure there’s a homicidal maniac lurking around every corner of the internet (but, strangely enough, seem to think the local bar or club is perfectly safe). They might fill your head with horror stories or send you a link to every story they can find about someone who was scammed online. On the bright side, they’ve got your back if you’re feeling nervous yourself and want a friend “planted” on-site at your first date... and if they approve of the match they’ll probably be incredibly supportive.
There’s nothing wrong with recognizing something of yourself in the Dans or the Sallies - indeed, you want a little bit of both when it comes to approaching online dating. Safety is important, and you want to take precautions when it comes to giving out your personal information, as well as trust your gut instincts. On the other hand, you can’t fall in love if you’re living in fear, so you have to be willing to take a leap of faith at some point. Hopefully, in person you won’t have much cause to overthink it; think about how quickly we make judgments and gut decisions about people every day. You probably didn’t have to make a pros and cons list about starting a friendship with your best friends, for example.
The important thing to remember is that reason and emotion are not mutually exclusive. We employ a bit of both every day of our lives - so why not strike that same balance when it comes to love? Perhaps we should even get the Dans and the Sallies together - it seems a good mix brings the best out of both.
We’ll call one group the Dreamer Dans; they’re all about throwing caution to the wind, finding True Love. These are the ones who might advocate moving across the country to live with someone you’ve never met. On the plus side, they’re ready to root for love, so they’ll be supportive if they’re a friend or family member. On the other hand, they encourage rash behavior - and they might also be the type to focus on a fairy-tale “story” rather than finding an appropriate match.
The opposing group can be dubbed the Safety Sallies; they’re pretty sure there’s a homicidal maniac lurking around every corner of the internet (but, strangely enough, seem to think the local bar or club is perfectly safe). They might fill your head with horror stories or send you a link to every story they can find about someone who was scammed online. On the bright side, they’ve got your back if you’re feeling nervous yourself and want a friend “planted” on-site at your first date... and if they approve of the match they’ll probably be incredibly supportive.
There’s nothing wrong with recognizing something of yourself in the Dans or the Sallies - indeed, you want a little bit of both when it comes to approaching online dating. Safety is important, and you want to take precautions when it comes to giving out your personal information, as well as trust your gut instincts. On the other hand, you can’t fall in love if you’re living in fear, so you have to be willing to take a leap of faith at some point. Hopefully, in person you won’t have much cause to overthink it; think about how quickly we make judgments and gut decisions about people every day. You probably didn’t have to make a pros and cons list about starting a friendship with your best friends, for example.
The important thing to remember is that reason and emotion are not mutually exclusive. We employ a bit of both every day of our lives - so why not strike that same balance when it comes to love? Perhaps we should even get the Dans and the Sallies together - it seems a good mix brings the best out of both.
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