Double Dates: Double Trouble
- Wednesday, June 23 2010 @ 08:05 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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So let's say you've met someone, and things are going swimmingly. Your new potential significant other has met your friends – and that's going pretty well too. So well, in fact, that you've been invited on an all-new adventure – the double date.
Double dates open up a whole new world of anxiety and awkwardness. Sure, they can be a ton of fun. More often than not, however, they reveal the insecurities of a brand-new couple, and invite unflattering comparisons. If you're about to embark on a double date, keeping a few survival tips in mind could make the difference between a fun outing and a nail-biting session.
First and most importantly, remember that each relationship is unique. Maybe you've known your new flame for a few weeks, while the other couple has been together for years. Maybe you and your match are naturally a little more low-key on the PDA, but the other couple acts like teenagers with puppy love. That's okay – there's no “right way” or “better way.” And for crying out loud, don't try to make it into a competition about who's more in love. That's just silly.
It's not always the case that the other couple is a positive example; sometimes there's sniping and even flat-out arguments. It's never a pretty sight, and never a comfortable atmosphere. If you think you can successfully lighten the mood, go ahead and tell your jokes, but never, ever get involved in the argument. Don't turn it into a case where you and your partner are taking sides, or even worse, fighting about gender issues.
If the double date is clearly off in some way – whatever the reason – and you and your date are uncomfortable, take initiative. Make up an excuse, call it an early night, whatever, but get yourselves out of there. Even if the double date goes sour, you can still save the evening and have a good time with your significant other.
Sometimes double dates can be illuminating and fun – you're seeing your partner in a different light, in a situation that's social but not overwhelming. On other occasions, the situation can be toxic. Either way, if you stay alert and avoid these common issues, it's possible to make the best of any double-date scenario.
Double dates open up a whole new world of anxiety and awkwardness. Sure, they can be a ton of fun. More often than not, however, they reveal the insecurities of a brand-new couple, and invite unflattering comparisons. If you're about to embark on a double date, keeping a few survival tips in mind could make the difference between a fun outing and a nail-biting session.
First and most importantly, remember that each relationship is unique. Maybe you've known your new flame for a few weeks, while the other couple has been together for years. Maybe you and your match are naturally a little more low-key on the PDA, but the other couple acts like teenagers with puppy love. That's okay – there's no “right way” or “better way.” And for crying out loud, don't try to make it into a competition about who's more in love. That's just silly.
It's not always the case that the other couple is a positive example; sometimes there's sniping and even flat-out arguments. It's never a pretty sight, and never a comfortable atmosphere. If you think you can successfully lighten the mood, go ahead and tell your jokes, but never, ever get involved in the argument. Don't turn it into a case where you and your partner are taking sides, or even worse, fighting about gender issues.
If the double date is clearly off in some way – whatever the reason – and you and your date are uncomfortable, take initiative. Make up an excuse, call it an early night, whatever, but get yourselves out of there. Even if the double date goes sour, you can still save the evening and have a good time with your significant other.
Sometimes double dates can be illuminating and fun – you're seeing your partner in a different light, in a situation that's social but not overwhelming. On other occasions, the situation can be toxic. Either way, if you stay alert and avoid these common issues, it's possible to make the best of any double-date scenario.
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