You Don't Need Sno-cone Hair to Like Yourself
- Tuesday, March 09 2010 @ 10:08 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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I recently saw an interview on TV with pop pioneer Cyndi Lauper. She was asked what advice she would give to young aspiring musicians. Essentially, her advice was to figure out who you are, and what you want to be. Once you have a firm vision and are comfortable with yourself, she said, the rest would be easier.
Not bad advice for the music world, or really, life in general. However, I think this applies particularly well as we attack the dating world. Dating can be hard; just like the music industry, some rejection is commonplace and to be expected, and there's a large pool of competitors. Every skill that we gain can be valuable in setting us apart from the crowd.
And perhaps the best skill to have is self-confidence. Not only does self-confidence have positive effects on our own mental state, it's also attractive to others. No human being is without flaws, either physical or psychological; however, those who are accepting of their flaws and accentuate their strong aspects only draw attention to the positive.
Unfortunately, sometimes having self-confidence is easier said than done. For many, one of the most difficult skills to acquire. However, this is where the second part of Cyndi's advice comes in: figure out what you want to be. Self-confidence doesn't have to arrive as an entire package; identify the positives in your life, and then work on what you can change. Maybe you're working on quelling your fears at trying something new; the very knowledge that you're working on a problem can make you stand taller, even if you're not quite where you want to be yet.
Once you're more comfortable with who you are, both good and bad, it's easier to present yourself with confidence to anyone else, whether it's a job interview or a first date. Sometimes the hardest thing in the world can to learn to like yourself – but once you do, it's easier for everyone else.
Not bad advice for the music world, or really, life in general. However, I think this applies particularly well as we attack the dating world. Dating can be hard; just like the music industry, some rejection is commonplace and to be expected, and there's a large pool of competitors. Every skill that we gain can be valuable in setting us apart from the crowd.
And perhaps the best skill to have is self-confidence. Not only does self-confidence have positive effects on our own mental state, it's also attractive to others. No human being is without flaws, either physical or psychological; however, those who are accepting of their flaws and accentuate their strong aspects only draw attention to the positive.
Unfortunately, sometimes having self-confidence is easier said than done. For many, one of the most difficult skills to acquire. However, this is where the second part of Cyndi's advice comes in: figure out what you want to be. Self-confidence doesn't have to arrive as an entire package; identify the positives in your life, and then work on what you can change. Maybe you're working on quelling your fears at trying something new; the very knowledge that you're working on a problem can make you stand taller, even if you're not quite where you want to be yet.
Once you're more comfortable with who you are, both good and bad, it's easier to present yourself with confidence to anyone else, whether it's a job interview or a first date. Sometimes the hardest thing in the world can to learn to like yourself – but once you do, it's easier for everyone else.
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