Do you Rush into Relationships?
- Tuesday, April 05 2011 @ 07:21 pm
- Contributed by: kellyseal
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Falling in love is a great feeling. It’s what we all look for when we seek out a partner: that feeling of unbelievable chemistry and mutual attraction. Unfortunately, many women get carried away and tend to dive in emotionally, expecting an instant relationship.
Often before we get to really know a man, we let these strong feelings overtake us and give our hearts, minds, and exclusivity to the object of our affection. We imagine a blissful future together and what it would look like, instead of letting things progress one date at a time.
In my experience, falling hard and fast doesn’t make the long-term prospects of your relationship more promising. In fact, it often blinds us to red flags we may see upfront, but choose to ignore. What if he seems charming and romantic, but has no intention of having a real relationship?
Instead of jumping in headfirst and making yourself available to him whenever he calls, take it one date at a time and get to know this man who makes you feel wonderful. Romance fades over time, so it’s important to know what really bonds you together besides a sense of chemistry.
Instead, I advise women to keep their options open and continue dating other men. We tend to make the mistake of being emotionally exclusive right away, cutting off our options before we know the man feels the same way. Relationships are a two-way street. You want to ensure he has the same intentions before you make such important assumptions, no matter how good the chemistry.
Playing games is not the objective here. You do not want to date other men with the intention of making him jealous or making your social life seem exciting for his benefit. This is not about him, it’s about you and your long-term happiness. Doing things to “make” him want you usually result having the opposite effect. Instead, by dating different men, you will recognize better when you and the right man want to make a mutual commitment. After a few dates, you both may realize that you have a great relationship and want to date exclusively. Or you may see that the initial chemistry you felt was not enough, or that he doesn’t want to commit to you.
Either way, it’s nice to take things slowly and let the relationship progress on its own. This way, you can be sure to know and get what you truly want.
Often before we get to really know a man, we let these strong feelings overtake us and give our hearts, minds, and exclusivity to the object of our affection. We imagine a blissful future together and what it would look like, instead of letting things progress one date at a time.
In my experience, falling hard and fast doesn’t make the long-term prospects of your relationship more promising. In fact, it often blinds us to red flags we may see upfront, but choose to ignore. What if he seems charming and romantic, but has no intention of having a real relationship?
Instead of jumping in headfirst and making yourself available to him whenever he calls, take it one date at a time and get to know this man who makes you feel wonderful. Romance fades over time, so it’s important to know what really bonds you together besides a sense of chemistry.
Instead, I advise women to keep their options open and continue dating other men. We tend to make the mistake of being emotionally exclusive right away, cutting off our options before we know the man feels the same way. Relationships are a two-way street. You want to ensure he has the same intentions before you make such important assumptions, no matter how good the chemistry.
Playing games is not the objective here. You do not want to date other men with the intention of making him jealous or making your social life seem exciting for his benefit. This is not about him, it’s about you and your long-term happiness. Doing things to “make” him want you usually result having the opposite effect. Instead, by dating different men, you will recognize better when you and the right man want to make a mutual commitment. After a few dates, you both may realize that you have a great relationship and want to date exclusively. Or you may see that the initial chemistry you felt was not enough, or that he doesn’t want to commit to you.
Either way, it’s nice to take things slowly and let the relationship progress on its own. This way, you can be sure to know and get what you truly want.
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