Dating is Like Gardening
- Sunday, August 21 2011 @ 08:41 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Have you ever planted a garden? It’s not as simple as tossing a handful of seeds into the ground and walking away. A garden must be carefully tended, with water and fertilizer. Your must ensure that your plants aren’t being choked by weeds. And despite your best efforts, the outcome is always unpredictable, as changeable as the weather.
The world of online dating shares more than a few of these traits. Thinking of your profile as a garden could, in fact, help your online profile blossom into a great first impression.
First, remember that a profile must be maintained - not with plant food and water, but with careful updating. Are your pictures out-of-date? Are you “looking forward” to seeing movies that came out two years ago? Are you talking about the cold and the snow when it’s July? This doesn’t mean you should only stick to information that won’t go out-of-fate; keeping your profile current and updated shows that you haven’t just tossed up a profile and walked away. However, it’s important that you don’t let your profile wither on the vine.
Even more important than maintenance is editing. Perhaps you have several witty, interesting things to say - but it’s nearly impossible to find them in your profile. They’re being choked by the weeds of white noise and uninteresting, dry information. Remember - less is almost always more. Pull out anything that’s not interesting or funny - you’ll have plenty of time to cover the dry stuff later. In the meantime, you want your best aspects to shine through and blossom.
Perhaps you’ve done everything you can on your profile - it’s funny, it’s entertaining, it’s honest - but you still aren’t getting many responses or finding many people you’re interested in. To put it simply, you’re in a dating drought. Sadly, it happens, despite our best efforts. Maybe there just aren’t many compatible people on your site at the moment, or maybe you need to broaden your search parameters. The good news is that the rain will eventually come, if not on your ideal schedule.
Earth and flowers may be as far from the world of online dating as you can get, but that doesn’t mean you can’t glean some wisdom from the gardening. Like gardening, dating is a test of patience, faith, and hope - and like online dating, the rewards are more than worth it.
The world of online dating shares more than a few of these traits. Thinking of your profile as a garden could, in fact, help your online profile blossom into a great first impression.
First, remember that a profile must be maintained - not with plant food and water, but with careful updating. Are your pictures out-of-date? Are you “looking forward” to seeing movies that came out two years ago? Are you talking about the cold and the snow when it’s July? This doesn’t mean you should only stick to information that won’t go out-of-fate; keeping your profile current and updated shows that you haven’t just tossed up a profile and walked away. However, it’s important that you don’t let your profile wither on the vine.
Even more important than maintenance is editing. Perhaps you have several witty, interesting things to say - but it’s nearly impossible to find them in your profile. They’re being choked by the weeds of white noise and uninteresting, dry information. Remember - less is almost always more. Pull out anything that’s not interesting or funny - you’ll have plenty of time to cover the dry stuff later. In the meantime, you want your best aspects to shine through and blossom.
Perhaps you’ve done everything you can on your profile - it’s funny, it’s entertaining, it’s honest - but you still aren’t getting many responses or finding many people you’re interested in. To put it simply, you’re in a dating drought. Sadly, it happens, despite our best efforts. Maybe there just aren’t many compatible people on your site at the moment, or maybe you need to broaden your search parameters. The good news is that the rain will eventually come, if not on your ideal schedule.
Earth and flowers may be as far from the world of online dating as you can get, but that doesn’t mean you can’t glean some wisdom from the gardening. Like gardening, dating is a test of patience, faith, and hope - and like online dating, the rewards are more than worth it.
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