Dating Mistakes to Avoid in 2011

As we say goodbye to 2010, we should also say goodbye to some dating habits that didn't serve us in the past. I've put together a list of dating don'ts so that you will see better results (and have a better time in the process) in 2011.

For the men:

Don't be cheap. Sure, women should offer to pay on a date, but have some class and offer to pick up the tab. You can choose where to go...if you don't have much money, don't go to a trendy restaurant...we like creative choices better, like an art gallery opening or picnic in the park. Use your imagination.

Don't be a flake. Most women complain about men who don't call back, cancel plans frequently, or otherwise show disinterest. If you like her, call her and ask her out. If not, tell her she's not for you.

Leave the past behind. If you just broke up with your girlfriend, your new date doesn't need to hear about it. Even if she's a "great listener", she'd rather be getting a root canal than listening to all the things your ex has done wrong. Give it a rest, and focus on your date.

For the women:

Don't be a gold-digger. While it's nice if a man takes you to nice places and pays for everything, offer to pay for something yourself. Whether it's valet parking, the tip, or some drinks, he deserves some courtesy so he doesn't feel like you're taking advantage.

Don't get drunk. Maybe having a drink or two helps you relax, but if you drink quickly and find yourself losing control of your senses, you put yourself in a vulnerable position, especially if you're meeting your date for the first time. Slow down.

Don't talk excessively. Even if your job is interesting, your day was filled with drama, or you like just chatting it up, don't spend the evening talking about your life, problems, etc. It's better to ask questions and engage your date, and spend a little more time flirting. Remember, you're trying to get to know your date as well as tell him about yourself.