Dating Does Not Need a Committee
- Saturday, September 04 2010 @ 11:44 am
- Contributed by: Jet
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Suppose you walked up to any two people and asked them how they wished to celebrate their birthdays. Do you think they would respond in the same way?
Most likely not. After all, many people use their birthdays as a day to have fun in a completely personal way. For example, some might want to have a big party. Some might prefer that others throw the party for them. One person might want to spend a quiet day with family, and still another would like a babysitter so they can go see a movie in happy solitude. None of these choices are 'right' or 'wrong'; they're simply a reflection of the personality of the birthday boy or girl.
So too is it when we enter into a relationship. So many people seem to think that their relationship – something entirely personal and individual to the couple – must follow certain rules and timelines. Even if consciously they realize that it's silly to think that all relationships are alike, many still subconsciously expect things to happen in a certain order, a certain way.
After all, how many times have we raised our eyebrows at news of an elopement? Or been surprised that a couple chooses to marry after knowing each other only a few weeks, or living on opposite sides of the world? Maybe we've met someone in a relationship with more than two people. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, just like people.
As you enter into a relationship, take the birthday approach – do what's right for you and your partner. At the end of the day, only the people in the relationship are the ones who need to have input. Don't dwell over whether you should have gotten an engagement ring by now, or what others would say if they knew you spent your anniversary at a bowling alley or that you went on five dates before kissing. Is your relationship happy and healthy? That's all you need to worry about.
Most likely not. After all, many people use their birthdays as a day to have fun in a completely personal way. For example, some might want to have a big party. Some might prefer that others throw the party for them. One person might want to spend a quiet day with family, and still another would like a babysitter so they can go see a movie in happy solitude. None of these choices are 'right' or 'wrong'; they're simply a reflection of the personality of the birthday boy or girl.
So too is it when we enter into a relationship. So many people seem to think that their relationship – something entirely personal and individual to the couple – must follow certain rules and timelines. Even if consciously they realize that it's silly to think that all relationships are alike, many still subconsciously expect things to happen in a certain order, a certain way.
After all, how many times have we raised our eyebrows at news of an elopement? Or been surprised that a couple chooses to marry after knowing each other only a few weeks, or living on opposite sides of the world? Maybe we've met someone in a relationship with more than two people. Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, just like people.
As you enter into a relationship, take the birthday approach – do what's right for you and your partner. At the end of the day, only the people in the relationship are the ones who need to have input. Don't dwell over whether you should have gotten an engagement ring by now, or what others would say if they knew you spent your anniversary at a bowling alley or that you went on five dates before kissing. Is your relationship happy and healthy? That's all you need to worry about.
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