Confidence Can Only Come From Within

Confidence is a strong character factor especially for singles searching for other singles. It's a virtual turn-on because people can sense if you're confident or not. You don't have to be a contestant in a Miss Universe contest or be a Mr. Muscle Man to draw other singles to you.

Though money, clothes and other material things may help boost up confidence, the true sense of confidence should come from within the person. Even your physical features are nothing without confidence.

Study what goes through your mind. Do you talk what goes through your mind in confidence? Or do you have self-pity over what the past has done to you? Do you keep putting yourself down? Perhaps you are so full of fear that you only conceive yourself as a failure even if you're not.

Do you recall the old song, 'The Greatest Love'? Recall the chorus that goes something like this: "I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone's shadow. If I fail, if I succeed, at least I lived as I believe. No matter what they say or do, they can't take away my dignity. Because the greatest love of all is happening to me, I found the greatest love of all inside of me."

Remember the times you passed your exams in college? How did you get that much-coveted job? Or when you helped your best friend overcome his struggles? In all of the above, how confident were you in doing these things?

Your strengths, talents and weaknesses are all inside of you and only you can determine how strong your confidence can be. Everything that you did in the past entailed a certain amount of risk so there's nothing different when it comes to the risks of a first date or finding a true love or committed relationship.

Perhaps another thing you should stop doing is to compare yourself to other people. You can never be anyone else but yourself. You cannot be a Tom Cruise or a Matt Damon. You need to stop saying 'I could never do that.' There is only one you and what you can do is different from others. You may be a carpenter or furniture maker but, others are not. We think George Clooney could never make good cabinets like you can.

The name of the game is being realistic. That's all there is. Everyone faces the common tasks of everyday struggles in different phases.

Remember, only you have the power to make a difference. Start today, take steps to build your own self-image. Take the time to talk to and help strangers, the benefits can be tremendous.