Can You Date Across Party Lines?

This is an election year, and it's hard to turn on the television or pick up a magazine without seeing a political story or the latest policy debate. Politics is an important part of our culture, and we are becoming more divided as the election race continues.

So what does this mean in your dating life? For one thing, it's hard to avoid the subject of politics, especially if you've been on several dates with someone. If you discuss current events it will likely include politics, so at some point it's bound to make an appearance in your conversation. If you disagree with your date's political views (but still find him so incredibly attractive), what do you do? Aren't politics rooted in core values?

While it's difficult if both of you have strong political opinions, it can work. Take the famous example of James Carville and Mary Matalin, who have been married almost twenty years. (Although they claim the secret of their success is that they never discuss politics at home.)

When you're dating across party lines, communication (and listening) is key. Also, know where you stand - are your beliefs strong? Are you willing to be flexible? Knowing yourself and your limits is the most important thing. Following are some tips to guide you:

Don't try to change your date. While it's tempting to get into a philosophical debate with your dates about politics, understand that most people aren't willing to change their ideologies. Don't assume you'll persuade her otherwise. Accept your differences and be respectful of your different viewpoints.

Know your core values. Instead of talking about issues in terms of politics, discuss what you value and why. If you think that people living in poverty need assistance, discuss how you would help or what it means to see people suffer. If you think that hard work and dedication are the answer then share what you would do differently. The key is to understand what you both value, whether it's hard work, helping people, or having accountability. Two people can share the same values without sharing the same political beliefs.

Agree to disagree. Do you spend your dates arguing about politics or getting frustrated because you feel your date isn't listening? Instead of continuing down this endless road of conflict, come to an agreement - know when to discuss politics, and when to let the other person know you've had enough. Respect each other's right to an opinion.

It's not easy, but these are some steps you can take to help smooth the waters during election season. Remember, there are plenty of other subjects to discuss.