Are You Dating a Drama Queen?

Some men are looking for a little more excitement in their dating lives, maybe to take them out of their day-to-day business dealings, or maybe just to feel that rush of adrenaline. C'mon guys, you know the type you might go for - the highs and lows you're willing to endure because she makes you crazy. One day she loves you and you can do no wrong, but the next day she's screaming and ready to walk out. She's unpredictable. She's a drama queen.

She's totally worth it, right?

At the end of the day, not so much. What do you have to show for these hot and cold relationships? Do you feel safe entrusting your heart, your life, to someone like this? Or is choosing drama in a relationship more of a defensive measure - to protect you from really getting close to someone?

If you have a habit of choosing drama queens and are looking for something new, you might want to check your patterns at the door before you begin your next romance:

Pattern #1 - You like the chase. Many men like to pursue a woman, and if she's harder to pin down, it makes the chase more exciting and unpredictable. There's something really appealing about finally "getting" her, making her yours. But then what? Once the thrill of the chase is gone, how are you left feeling? Real relationships aren't built on the extreme highs and lows of the chase, but by building trust over time.

Pattern #2 - You're excited by her emotional flux. One minute she's laughing, the next crying, which is fun at first but not after a while. It seems that you're always trying to figure out what's going on with her. Instead of letting your moods follow her emotions, stop reacting and see what happens.

Pattern #3 - You're often on the defense. She likes to accuse you of things, and you're always defending yourself against attacks. After a while, this can wear you down. If a woman is playing the blame game, it's time to have a real conversation about how you're both feeling. If she won't take responsibility for her shortcomings and mistakes, it's best to move on so you don't continue this unhealthy cycle.

Pattern #4 - You find most women are too boring. You like the rush, like adrenaline of a drama queen. This can be almost an addictive pattern, because you're attracted to the rush of passion you feel, but remember it doesn't last. This means she keeps escalating the drama in order to keep your interest. This is an unhealthy cycle, and won't lead to a good relationship.

While excitement is a good feeling in a relationship, it's important to keep in mind what hasn't worked for you in the long run, and make changes to achieve a happier, healthier dating life.