5 Things to Avoid on a First Date

Nervous about a first date? That's understandable. You're meeting for the first time, and you want to make a good impression. But there's no need to drive yourself crazy over all the mistakes you (or your date) could make.

Instead, there are a surprisingly few simple guidelines to remember that will help you more than you realize - and they all have to do with good manners, which are often overlooked. If you pay attention to these, everything else will fall into place - and those mistakes won't matter so much to your date.

Don't be late. There's nothing "fashionable" about being late for a date, especially if you're meeting for the first time. Everyone's time is valuable, so it shows respect for the other person if you're punctual. Traffic jams might be outside of your control, but you should let your date know if you are running late with a text or call. It's a simple gesture that makes a huge difference.

Leave your phone out of it. I know it's difficult to put your phone in your purse or turn it off for the evening, especially if work is looming, but do it. Nobody wants to stare at a date's phone on the table between you, even if it isn't ringing. And texting or Tweeting during a date? Don't even think about it. Your date deserves your undivided attention.

No messy foods. Did you want to look great before you met your date? Chances are you got at least a little dressed up or put on make-up, so the last thing you want to do is go for some greasy chicken wings that get all over your clothes, hands and mouths. Sounds sexy, right? Not so much. Don't go for messy finger foods - keep it clean.

Don't control the conversation. This is basic dating 101. Your date wants to feel special and understood. There's no need to rattle off your impressive accomplishments or engage her in stories about you. Instead, ask questions about her. This is a date after all, not a business meeting with a client. You're looking to connect.

Don't pass judgment. Dating isn't easy. We're all trying to impress, or at least to get through the night without doing something embarrassing. It might take a few dates for someone to really feel comfortable, so if they seem nervous at first, give them the benefit of the doubt. Try date number two and three and then see if you're feeling it. You'd want the same consideration in return, right?