Dating Tip for Guys: How to be Spontaneous

Do you find yourself going on a lot of first dates, but rarely getting to date number two? Are you bored with the women you're meeting, or with the process in general? While not everyone is a good fit or fun to be with, there are a few things you can do to improve your game.

The key is spontaneity. Women are attracted to men they find interesting and unpredictable. Most of the time however, people are more reserved when they first meet someone for a date. Instead of showing your true selves and capabilities, you worry about how you come across and what she thinks. This often interferes with any spontaneous activity, which means your dates may not see the creative, quirky and perhaps even romantic person you truly are. Why not show it off a bit?

Many daters today are also more comfortable with casual dating, which means texting or calling at the last minute to "hang out" instead of planning. It's a good way to ensure your feelings will be protected, because you aren't putting yourself out there in any way. This is hardly inspiring for a romantic connection to be made.

Instead of holding back in your dating life and trying to be nonchalant about everyone you meet, consider inserting some intrigue and excitement into your search for love. This will make you stand out from all the other guys. Following are some tips for being spontaneous (although please deviate from this list if you're so inspired---that's the point)!

Keep it a surprise. Ask her to meet at a restaurant or coffee shop, but when you arrive take her to the ice rink across the street. Or tell her to bring walking shoes when you meet in front of a local bar, and take her to an art walk instead. Changing plans or being mysterious will spark her interest and curiosity, and wonder what you might do next.

Stay away from the typical questions. Instead of asking her about work, her family, where she went to school, or anything else that's predictable, focus on other questions. There's no need to get into politics or the exes though! Ask her about a p*censored*ion or hobby, or where she'd like to travel in the next year, or what kind of show she'd like to see on TV if she could create one. Keep it different.

Bring her something unique. I don't mean expensive flowers, jewelry, chocolates or anything that tries to buy her affection. I'm not talking about gifts, but rather gestures to show her you're different from the other guys. Make her a card, or bring her a sample of your favorite dessert from the bakery down the street, or present her with a candle for future romantic dinners together. These small, thoughtful, and unexpected gestures go a long way.

Try it on your next date and see what happens...