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How to create HUGE amounts of attraction with your online dating photos (sample chapter)


When you're meeting women online, what's the very first thing you look at on her profile? Her PHOTOS. Guess what the first thing women look at when they're looking at YOUR profile? Photos...and since a picture paints a thousand words, photos make up around 50% of how successfull your profile is.

How successfull your profile is determines...
- How many women will write YOU first, and whether they're eagerly awaiting your reply or just "mwah..we'll see"
- How compelled the women you sent a message to will be to reply. While the message itself already compells her, when she sees your GREAT profile afterwards she'll reply faster AND warmer...so your profile is basically a MULTIPLIER of the success your message already gave you

This is why I want to "beat the crap" out of this KEY area of your profile, so you won't only have mastered it, but permanently conquered it PAST the point of planting the flag!

Photo Pitfalls That Will RUIN Your Chances With Women
There are ways to define your success, there are ways to multiply it...and then there are ways to shoot yourself in the foot and never get a single date thanks to meeting women online EVER. Here's what you should AVOID at all costs...

- The finger bandit...seriously, it's NOT cool when you put photos on your profile where you accidently had a finger in front of the lense when it was taken. Whatever you had going for yourself behind the finger, you can throw in the trashcan...because a finger looks like you can't even handle a simple little "machine" such as a photo camera, leading women to thinking: "what ELSE can't this guy handle?" plus, some will laugh at you for this, I'm not kidding...

- Red eyes...we all know those photos taken from the wrong angle, with the wrong lighting or whatever that ends up being an image of you having red eyes. If you put those on your profile, they'll think the same as with fingers in front of the lense: "is this the BEST thing he has going for himself?" The only time you can get away with this one is if you edit your photo with some software, OR…instead, put red horns above all the people with the red eyes and call the photo "Sweet & Innocent"...THEN it all of a sudden becomes a photo where you're being playful, and naughty..

- Vague photos...way to many guys have photos on their profiles taken with BAD cameras: they're visible, but the quality of the image is so poor that it looks like it's snowing INSIDE their houses, LOL. Simply don't. Next to this, avoid photos with bad lighting (where only part of your face, the setting or the people you're with is visible because it's dark with no lights around).

- Objects...if you have photos of objects or you WITH objects, that may seem great to YOU: "this is my car" or "this is my diploma" or "my medals" or whatever...but to women? It comes across as BRAGGING about it, and you are. Women like a bit of arrogance, but bragging is being OVERLY arrogant...which turns them off.

- One man army...you have ALL that space on your profile, but end up putting only ONE (or only 2 or 3) photos on your profile? That's handicapping yourself my friend, because since photos make up such a BIG chunk of your profile success? You better be damn sure that you use it as much as you can to build attraction, show different sides of yourself and more! Those who still only put a few or a single photos up there, great...reserve a "parking spot for handicapped people" while you're at it!

- Macho man...this only actually has me laughing my ass off together with my girlfriends: guys bragging about their body in their profiles. They'll have photos of them with no shirt on to show the chest and sixpack, sometimes even as the MAIN PHOTO of their profile...which is the photo people will see when they find you in the search results. Really desperate women may fall for this, but remember: bragging PREVENTS game, it doesn't help it and on top of that...where's the wishful thinking, the mystery? I can guarantee you that TELLING them about how you like to work-out in a compelling way will have them fantasizing WAY more then you with a photo saying "here’s my sixpack, so take me now please..." it's almost like you're trying to get her approval with your body, so don't. Photos without shirts, pants, etc. are a no no. And by all means: no violence, action movie, crashes kinda stuff okay? That's great for men, but horrifying to women..

- Drug abuse...you may think it's fun to have a photo of you or one or all of your friends puking their guts out or being drunk to "make her see you have an exciting life" but that's what YOU think is exciting, while she's thinking "ielllll grose! yuck..." and nothing else. Same thing goes for photos of you and friends where you're standing side by side in a bar, all drinking or raising glasses, and you can see all of you had some drinks before...that's not "making her see you're interesting social circle", that's showing her you're an alcoholic. Other kinds of drugs, don't get me started...the only women you'll attract with those photos are women who are junkies themselves, LOL.

- Sameness...in a minute, I'll show you a number of different "styles" of photos that DO increase attention when a woman sees them, but before I go there I want to point out one more mistake: wearing that (almost) same, exact shirt or outfit in almost ALL of your photos. She'll either get bored because you're the same everywhere OR think you're so poor that you can only afford to have one shirt, either way? Not a good idea buddy...same goes for multiple photos with exactly the same people, or background. She'll get bored and think you don't go out that much, or are so reclusive that you only have 1 friend and that he’s called “Playstation”...so variation is key here.

Keys To The Photo Kingdom
Seems like a long list of mistakes, doesn't it? Well, the sad truth is that your male competition DOES make a LOT of mistakes...but that means YOU will have that much more success when you know how to meet and date women online from start to finish.

There are a couple of things you can do though, in almost EVERY photo, that will help you build attraction for you BIG TIME, so just listen to these...

- Smile...they did a study recently where a number of male and female subjects were given two collage with DOZENS of photos, all face shots, and they had to point out who were smiling and who were mad. One collage had 10 smilers in it, the other had 10 angry looking people hidden it among hundred or more photos per collega in total. The researchers discovered the following: males were fastest (with a huge difference) in recognizing the angry people, while women were the fastest with smiling people! This has to do with human history: thousands of years ago, men were hunter-gatherers and needed to protect the women and children from threats like wild beasts, mother nature, rival tribes and so fort and thus needed to recognize hostility as soon as possible. They also did a study on which was more attractive with both sexes: someone with a straight face or someone who was smiling, and the smilers were more attractive. So by all means: genuinely smile in as much photos as you can, not a forced grin but a normal smile...and you'll help your success drastically!

- Body language...while I never ever see men smiling when I go out or on their profiles, they also COMPLETELY lack any other form of facial expression: all straight faces, which means a lack of emotion. Since you want your face to appear in the photos caus' body only shots are not done, I've written an article about facial expressions that's included with this lesson. Check it out now...and afterwards ask yourself: how can I get more attraction thanks to facial expressions on photos? I'll tell you which photos and facial expressions to include in a minute...

- Poses and practice...don't be hard on yourself, thinking you have to get allll your photos JUST right the first time you make them. I was a camera shy guy once, in fact, I actually HATED photos and did everything to avoid being on them: skipping class when it was time for class photos, walking outside the reach of the camera on vacations and other ridiculous things. Until I realized I could actually INCREASE attraction between me and women big time because of them. So here's what I did: once a week, I would do a "photoshoot" of me in 2-3 outfits and would take about 30 photos of me in different poses, from different angles, with a different outfit on, with some facial expressions, backgrounds etc. I would upload those to my pc and would save the 5 very best photos and repeated this process every week. Since you put around 10 photos on your profile? I would select my own little top 10 every month and see if they improved the old ones I already had on my profile. This all helps to get over camera shyness, to make sure you have the best angles and poses, it's the best tip on this list: practice makes perfect.

- Torso shots...by this I mean you should make

Great post.