Who should Pay for a Date?

You've had a great time at dinner, laughing and enjoying each other's company. The chemistry is there, and you're feeling excited. Then the check comes, and she runs off to the restroom, leaving you to foot the bill for the fifth time in two weeks. You find yourself getting annoyed, and thinking that maybe you aren't so interested after all. She expects you to pay...again. Is this good dating behavior?

Traditionally, men have taken women out as a form of courting. But now women assert their independence when it comes to dating by offering to foot or split the bill. But what is considered appropriate?

My general rule is, whoever does the asking does the paying. Men shouldn't be expected to take care of every date; women should reciprocate by planning a date and paying for it. Dating is about mutual interest, rather than expectations.

In this case, if you've taken her out several times and would like her to extend the same courtesy, I would ask her to plan the next date. This way, you're not putting pressure on her to pick up the tab at dinner and looking like a cheapskate. On the other hand, the responsibility is on her to take care of the next date...planning and paying.

Some other tips when it comes to money and dating:

• Don't look cheap by separating the bill according to what each of you ate if she offers to split it. Divide it down the middle. This shows class.
• Plan ahead. Instead of taking your dates to expensive or trendy restaurants, take them on a picnic, make dinner, or go for a bike ride. There are plenty of less expensive, creative, and fun options. Don't feel as though you have to impress with money.
• Offer to pay. Ladies, if you're used to being taken out, return the favor. Ask him out and foot the bill. Or buy him a round of drinks. Show that you're interested in more than his wallet.