Top Turn-Ons and Turn-Offs on a First Date

If you've been on a date with a guy you found very attractive, but he never called you back, do you wonder why? First impressions are very powerful, and sometimes a thoughtless gesture or behavior could mean the difference between a second date and the disappearing act.

Following are some turn-ons and turn-offs for guys when it comes to first dates:

Don't drink too much. Sure, you may be able to handle your liquor and you want to keep up with him. But if you drink on an empty stomach or too quickly, you can quickly go from "slightly buzzed" to "drunk" and say or do things you'll later regret.

Dress sexy, not slutty. Instead of wearing your short shorts or showing off your cleavage, leave something to his imagination on a first date. Otherwise, he may get the impression you are looking for fun and not a relationship, and act accordingly.

Remember your manners. It's polite to thank your date if he picks up the bar tab or buys you a coffee, and it also shows you don't take things for granted. Also, it's great to ask questions because you're interested in your date, but don't cross-examine or act like you're conducting a job interview. Loosen up and let conversation flow.

Remember to smile and laugh. Sometimes, dating can feel serious. If you are exhausted or frustrated with dating, please don't share this attitude with your date! You will be more attractive and have a better time if you approach it with a sense of lightheartedness and adventure.

Don't come on too strong. You may have a big personality, like arguing your viewpoint, or find yourself controlling all of your conversations. If this is the case, take a breath and allow your date to steer the conversation. Every first date deserves a little give and take, so don't try to control the evening. Relax and get to know him first.