The waiting game

Being single doesn't always feel so free and empowering. Many of us are looking for a long-term relationship instead of a series of more dates. Sure, we might cherish our independence, but maybe we'd also like a partner or a family.

Sometimes, trying to find the right person can feel like a waiting game more than anything else. So, what can you do to make the most out of your time as a single? Following are a few tips to think about:

• Take risks. You see a cute guy in front of you at the coffee shop. Do you wait for him to say something, or do you approach? If you find yourself acting shy in these situations, start pushing yourself. Start the conversation. Even if it doesn't lead to anything at first, this practice becomes easier over time, and increases your chances of meeting someone great. Also, you up your dating game because you are taking risks. This increases your confidence and attractiveness, and you'll attract similar potential mates!

• Don't put off your dreams. Have you always wanted to go to Italy, but were waiting for a romantic trip with Mr. Right? Stop waiting and buy that dream ticket! Whether you take a friend or go solo, don't put off doing something you want to do while you're single. When you do things that make you happy, you attract happier and emotionally healthier people into your life. Plus, it's nice to have your own adventures before entering into a partnership.

• Expand your dating options. Instead of going to the same bars or joining online dating sites using the same profile and old photos, try something new! Grab a friend to check out a new café that just opened, or ask her to help you write a new online profile. Sometimes you just need to mix things up a little!

• Live in the moment. It's easy to say "I'll be happy when... I have a new job, I meet the right person, or I buy that house". Instead of concentrating on future happiness that is dependent on something or someone else, try cultivating your own happiness today no matter your situation. When your attitude changes, you attract different people and circumstances into your life. So, do the little things that make you happy...whether it's taking a hike in the morning or learning how to make fresh pasta. People will notice a different you.