Texting Rules for Daters

Texting is fast becoming the primary means of communication between two daters. Phone calls take too much time, and emailing seems to be as archaic as sending a letter through the mail. Texting is efficient and timely, and requires little effort. What's not to like?

Unfortunately, texting leaves a lot of room for misunderstanding. Before you hit the send button next time, consider the following:

• DON'T text when you are drunk or angry. If you are drunk, you'll likely say things you wouldn't normally say and create unnecessary drama or confusion. If you are angry, pick up the phone and talk it out. It's difficult to communicate a point effectively in 10 words, and will only lead to more of a mess.
• DON'T avoid breaking bad news by texting instead of calling. Sure, it's difficult to have the "break-up" conversation, or to tell someone you can't make it to see her, but pick up the phone to deliver the news rather than texting. When you text bad news it shows a lack of courtesy and respect.
• DO text before a first date to confirm that you are on your way, or where and when you are meeting. It's nice to keep your date posted if you are stuck in traffic or saving a table at a restaurant. It shows your interest as well.
• DO respond quickly to a text. Most people have their phones with them all the time, so they are likely to question your interest if you don't respond with a simple text right away. By the same token, DON'T text someone again if they do not respond to your text. If you send the "are u there??" messages, it makes you look a little desperate and they will be even less likely to respond.
• DON'T have long conversations over text. If you want to ask someone how they are doing it's acceptable. But if you want to go back and forth about politics or religion, it's probably best to do over the phone or in person.

Texting is a convenient form of communication, but it shouldn't be the only way you interact with your dates. Remember, it is meant to be brief and easy.