Single for the Holidays? Some Tips to Help You get Through
- Wednesday, December 08 2010 @ 09:32 am
- Contributed by: kellyseal
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Many singles dread this time of year. Thanksgiving weekend marks the beginning of the holiday season, filled with parties, dinners, and a lot of social interaction with friends and family, most of them wanting to know why you’re still single. While getting together can be fun, it also presents a lot of stress, especially when you are not satisfied with where you are in your dating life.
Following are some tips to help you get through, and have some fun in the process.
1. Attend parties! It may be a hard time to be single, but this is the best time of the year for socializing and meeting new people. For the record, the two weeks before Thanksgiving are the most popular weeks of the year for breaking up, which means new singles are on the market (just saying…). So instead of feeling depressed and isolated, recognize that there are a lot of people out there, so accept invitations and have fun. (I met my husband at a New Years’ party I didn’t even want to attend!)
2. Make plans with single friends. Instead of spending all your time with family this holiday season, make plans in advance with single friends. Sometimes, we need a break from the stress of family get-togethers with others in the same situation. So make plans ahead of time so you are already scheduled out.
3. Don’t apologize for being single. Maybe you’re afraid Aunt Sally will corner you in the kitchen and ask you why your latest relationship didn’t pan out. Remember, you don’t have to engage when family members ask you personal questions about your love life if you aren’t comfortable or you think it will result in unwanted criticism. Instead of going into detail, answer in a sentence or two and then ask her questions about her life. Keep the focus off of you.
4. Pamper yourself. If you’ve wanted to get that massage or a new dress, now is the time to indulge. Pampering helps us feel good about ourselves, which reflects in our interactions with others. Put your best foot forward.
Following are some tips to help you get through, and have some fun in the process.
1. Attend parties! It may be a hard time to be single, but this is the best time of the year for socializing and meeting new people. For the record, the two weeks before Thanksgiving are the most popular weeks of the year for breaking up, which means new singles are on the market (just saying…). So instead of feeling depressed and isolated, recognize that there are a lot of people out there, so accept invitations and have fun. (I met my husband at a New Years’ party I didn’t even want to attend!)
2. Make plans with single friends. Instead of spending all your time with family this holiday season, make plans in advance with single friends. Sometimes, we need a break from the stress of family get-togethers with others in the same situation. So make plans ahead of time so you are already scheduled out.
3. Don’t apologize for being single. Maybe you’re afraid Aunt Sally will corner you in the kitchen and ask you why your latest relationship didn’t pan out. Remember, you don’t have to engage when family members ask you personal questions about your love life if you aren’t comfortable or you think it will result in unwanted criticism. Instead of going into detail, answer in a sentence or two and then ask her questions about her life. Keep the focus off of you.
4. Pamper yourself. If you’ve wanted to get that massage or a new dress, now is the time to indulge. Pampering helps us feel good about ourselves, which reflects in our interactions with others. Put your best foot forward.
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