Online Dating's Best Wingman: Your Grandmother?

- Wednesday, February 15 2012 @ 09:21 am
- Contributed by: ElyseRomano
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Grandparents aren't typically known for being a tech-savvy bunch, but it turns out they might know a whole lot more about online dating that you'd think.
Meet 24-year-old Kayli Stollack and Gail, her 76-year-old grandmother. Kayli is the creator of "Granny Is My Wingman" (GrannyIsMyWingman.com), a popular blog that came about after Kayli decided to take a chance on online dating and recruited her grandmother as her wingman (Wingwoman? Wing-granny?). Together, granny and grand-daughter began a quest for love in cyberspace. Kayli joined OkCupid, while Gail signed up for J-Date. "My granny and me are both single ladies looking for laughs and love in the world of online dating," Kayli told ABC News.
The blog began, Kayli says, after her grandmother told her a particularly funny dating story. "We knew it was a funny idea," she said, "but I didn't think it would get so much traction. It was a joke at first, but it got a lot of attention really fast." Readers came for the novelty, but stayed for the good advice. Like:
- Don't plan a long date. For a first date, shoot for 45 minutes and never make it a dinner date. That way you're not stuck spending hours with someone you're not into if the date doesn't go as planned.
- Don't brag about sexual technique. Save that for later, and then "show, don't tell" is a better approach.
- Make sure your profile reflects who you really are. What makes you unique?
- Don't hog all the attention. A date is about getting to know the other person, not bragging about yourself. "If ya spent 24 hours with the guy," Gail said of one self-centered date, "23 would be about him."
- Manage your expectations. Don't mistake a spark of interest for wedding bells, two kids, and a golden retriever. Take things slowly.
- Be honest, in your profile and on your dates. Being untruthful will only match you with people you're not actually compatible with.
- Have fun! Online dating doesn't have to be so serious. When Gail lost a fake tooth in the middle of the date, she played it cool and her date's response was "Please don't be embarrassed. I don't mind a bit, I'm enjoying every moment of being with you." She stayed calm, laughed it off, and won him over.
- The buddy system isn't just for kindergarten. A wingman makes everything better.