New Year’s Resolution: 5 Dating Mistakes NOT to make in 2011

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  • Saturday, January 08 2011 @ 11:21 am
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It's a new year, which means a time to make real changes in our lives. While resolutions can be difficult to initiate and maintain, they help us improve the parts of our lives that we feel are lacking.

If you're looking to create more dating success in 2011, I've put together a list of five mistakes you should stop making to improve your results.

Stop being flaky. Sure, we all get busy at work. There are also times when we don't want to call someone back if the chemistry wasn't there on a first date. But this is no excuse for letting calls go to voicemail unreturned or for texts to remain unanswered. Make plans when you can follow through. Or let the person know you aren't interested, so both of you can move on.

Don't fake it. If you're interested in someone and want to impress her, you won't get far if you aren't true to yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. Instead of looking to impress, ask questions and get to really know your date instead of making assumptions about what she wants. She could surprise you.

Leave the critic at home. If you find yourself dismissing dates within the first few minutes of meeting for something trivial (i.e. "I can't believe he wore a baseball cap on a date"), then you need to loosen your standards. Instead of being immediately critical, get to know your date and have a little more fun. How can you ever get past a first date if you're too busy critiquing?

Don't expect dates to come to you. This is not about joining one or two online dating sites and waiting to see what happens, but actively putting yourself in the dating market. Check your online dating matches and respond regularly. Attend parties, events, and classes and introduce yourself. Answer texts and emails promptly. Talk to the guy in line next to you at Starbucks. You won't see results without actively seeking them.

Don't let disappointment and negativity take over. So, he didn't call you back? Consider your budding romance a thing of the past and move on to other prospects. Remember that a few bad experiences don't make bad dates or inconsiderate behavior the norm.

Happy New Year!