How to Pick Up at a Party

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  • Tuesday, August 17 2010 @ 08:17 am
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It's summer which means there are plenty of barbeques and parties happening. Now is the time to take advantage of these social gatherings and start meeting new people!

But how do you approach someone who catches your eye at a party? Should you offer cheesy one-liners to introduce yourself, or is there a better approach? Here are some tips:

  • Make yourself approachable. Don't stand in the corner and look around, waiting for someone to talk to you. Smile and circulate. Introduce yourself first. There's nothing sexier than confidence and putting others at ease to talk to you.
  • Take interest in other party-goers. Ask questions and listen to what they tell you. Nothing attracts people more than an attentive listener and someone who treats others with respect and interest.
  • Don't look around the room when you're talking with someone. There's nothing more insulting than having a conversation with someone who isn't really engaged with you. If you keep looking to see who else is at the party, you won't connect. Focus on the person you're talking to, and when you're ready to leave and move on to someone else, politely excuse yourself.
  • Don't hang around the same person all night. Sure, you've found someone really attractive, but making yourself too available is a turn-off. Excuse yourself and circulate, and meet up with that person later. Alternatively, if you only talk with one or two people who you know at the party, you're preventing yourself from meeting new and interesting people. Don't cut yourself off when there is opportunity, even if you're shy. Be bold and circulate.
  • Bring a social wingman/woman, or go solo. Don't bring your wallflower friend to a party or you may end up babysitting. Instead, call on your socially-savvy friends who have no problem approaching new people, and have them introduce you. Alternatively, go solo. There's nothing that screams confidence like someone who comes to a party alone and engages with new people. Plus, other singles will know you are single too.