How to Tell If You’re His Girlfriend

You've been dating a charming and attractive guy for several weeks. When you're together, everything is great and you have a lot of fun. But when you're apart, you wonder if he feels the same way you do - and you're ready for some kind of commitment. Maybe you're even afraid to discuss where the relationship is going, because you don't know what he thinks or what he wants.

Even though you don't want to let go of a good thing, it's good to give yourself a little reality check to make sure you're both on the same page and not wasting each other's time. Following are some ways to tell whether he's really into you and thinks of you as his girlfriend, or if you're in the "friends with benefits" or casual dating zone:

He doesn't ask you out on weekends. If you only seem to go out on Tuesday or Wednesday nights, or he calls at the last minute and expects you to drop everything to meet him, he doesn't think of you as girlfriend material.

He doesn't introduce you to family or friends. If he's keeping you separated from his day-to-day existence (interaction with good friends and family), he's likely not interested in a relationship. Men are usually eager to introduce a new girlfriend around. If he does take you along to meet his friends - but introduces you by your first name without attempting to explain your relationship - likely he only views you as a friend or casual acquaintance.

He doesn't show you his place. Is he making excuses why he won't invite you over to see where he lives? Chances are he's not all that interested in bringing you into his world.

You get late night booty calls. If you find he calls you late at night to get together more often than not, chances are he doesn't see you as a girlfriend, but a convenience. Don't be so available.

It's hard to schedule time together. If he seems to always be busy, or if you have to make plans several days in advance to meet for something as simple as dinner or drinks, something is amiss. When men are interested, they cancel their other plans and go out of their way to see the object of their affection. If he gets flustered about changing his schedule or is hard to pin down, likely he's not viewing you as girlfriend material but as a back-up plan.

You feel uncomfortable talking about your relationship. If you're afraid to ask him what he wants or how he feels, it's not a good sign. If you've been dating several weeks or even months and he squirms whenever you bring up the subject, that's a red flag - likely he only sees you as a temporary fling.

No surprises. If you were to show up at his work with a picnic basket to surprise him with lunch, would he be upset? If he seems to blow hot and cold - happy when you're together on his terms but cold when you call and interrupt what he's doing - this is also a red flag. He doesn't see you as a girlfriend, so take heart and move on.