How to Read Verbal Cues Online: the body language of text
- Wednesday, July 14 2010 @ 08:45 am
- Contributed by: DatingBlogger
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Although online dating is extremely convenient in many ways, it also adds the complex problem of reading tone and intention through text. How is it possible to read the subtlety of an email without the added dimension of body language? Through the specific body language of text.
Text has its own secret language of nuances that allow you to read into what your potential match is thinking. Here are some examples:
What kind of language does he/she use? Are your exchanges well-thought out or written in chat-speak (“omg,” “lol,” “jk,” and “btw” are all examples of chat-speak)? The type of language he/she uses may give some indication of the level of seriousness they’re taking to the dating scene. Someone who wants to be taken seriously writes seriously. So if you’re looking for a long-term relationship and your match responds with a series of acronyms, you may have different dating goals.
How fast does he/she respond? A series of rapid exchanges fired across digital space will probably indicate a strong connection. When like-minded people come into contact with each other, it is often fiery and intense, sparking immediate interest and attention. So if you find yourself running to your computer to check your inbox, eager for that next missive, you can probably guess that your partner is doing the same thing. If, on the other hand, the person with whom you’re writing doesn’t respond for weeks and weeks, it indicates either one of two possibilities: 1.) a lack of real interest in dating or 2.) a busy schedule, which in itself could be a deal breaker if you’d like to date someone with more free time.
What are your emails like? Are they largely one-sided, or does your partner engage and ask you questions as well? If your partner pays attention to the details of your email, it is likely than he/she will be equally, if not more, engaged with you once you start real-time dating.
How does he/she respond to your questions? Does he/she give well-thought out answers, expressing genuine consideration for your questions, or does he/she seem evasive or hard to engage? If the person with whom you’re writing opens up and shares his/her life with you, a level of implicit trust is evident, meaning that they’re genuinely interested in you and want you to be interested, as well.
Text has its own secret language of nuances that allow you to read into what your potential match is thinking. Here are some examples:
What kind of language does he/she use? Are your exchanges well-thought out or written in chat-speak (“omg,” “lol,” “jk,” and “btw” are all examples of chat-speak)? The type of language he/she uses may give some indication of the level of seriousness they’re taking to the dating scene. Someone who wants to be taken seriously writes seriously. So if you’re looking for a long-term relationship and your match responds with a series of acronyms, you may have different dating goals.
How fast does he/she respond? A series of rapid exchanges fired across digital space will probably indicate a strong connection. When like-minded people come into contact with each other, it is often fiery and intense, sparking immediate interest and attention. So if you find yourself running to your computer to check your inbox, eager for that next missive, you can probably guess that your partner is doing the same thing. If, on the other hand, the person with whom you’re writing doesn’t respond for weeks and weeks, it indicates either one of two possibilities: 1.) a lack of real interest in dating or 2.) a busy schedule, which in itself could be a deal breaker if you’d like to date someone with more free time.
What are your emails like? Are they largely one-sided, or does your partner engage and ask you questions as well? If your partner pays attention to the details of your email, it is likely than he/she will be equally, if not more, engaged with you once you start real-time dating.
How does he/she respond to your questions? Does he/she give well-thought out answers, expressing genuine consideration for your questions, or does he/she seem evasive or hard to engage? If the person with whom you’re writing opens up and shares his/her life with you, a level of implicit trust is evident, meaning that they’re genuinely interested in you and want you to be interested, as well.
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