How to Pick a Good First Date Location

I'm a fan of the coffee shop date when meeting someone for the first time, but this can get old quickly. Above all, you want to feel relaxed, comfortable, and open to conversation no matter where you choose, but it's important to mix it up. Some places are better than others when it comes to choosing the location for your first date.

Following are some tips to keep in mind for first date locations:

Make sure it's affordable. The first date is an exercise in getting to know each other. Even if you feel chemistry after talking on the phone or long chat sessions, if you haven't met in person yet things could go either way. Don't be tempted to impress with an expensive dinner. Leave that for later dates.

Think about the noise. While trendy bars are great for meeting with friends, they might work against you on a date if you find yourself constantly having to shout above the noise. Bottom line, go for a drink if you'd like, but make sure it's space where you can talk.

Don't lose your date. Pick a place that isn't your favorite hole-in-the-wall with an entrance in a dark alley. Make sure your date can find it easily, and that it's not an hour drive for him and walking distance for you. Compromise is best: meet halfway, in a well-marked location. Save the mystery for later.

Plan for p*censored*ive time if it's an active date. I'm a big fan of first dates involving an activity like hiking or playing tennis. This breaks the ice, and gives you something enjoyable to do which lightens the mood. However, please remember to make time after to sit and talk, even if it's over coffee.

Dress for success. I live in L.A., but the flip flops and shorts first date is a real turn-off for most unless you're going to the beach. On the other hand, don't wear a tight miniskirt and stiletto heels either, in case your date wants to go for a walk or you end up standing at a bar. Meet in the middle. Be comfortable, yet sexy - then you're prepared no matter where you are.

When in doubt, choose comfort. I tend to pick places where I've been, so I know the parking situation, when it gets crowded, and how much it will cost by the end of the night. It's good to have some "knowns" when it comes to first dates, since it's easy to feel nervous about so many other things.

Have fun!