How to Make the First Move

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  • Saturday, April 16 2011 @ 01:05 pm
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You've been staring at the guy across the bar for several minutes, trying to see if he's interested. You wait, nursing your drink and hoping that he might come over and talk to you. So far, it isn't happening.

Many men and women make the mistake of waiting for the object of their desire to approach, instead of taking the matter into their own hands and making the first move. Instead of waiting for your love life to happen, following are some tips to help you initiate romance and give your dating life some intrigue and excitement:

  • Be flirty. This is not about having witty banter like you see in the movies. Flirting requires you to smile, lean in a little bit, and enjoy some initial boy-meets-girl conversation. If you're nervous and you look around, or pretend that you're not that interested to protect yourself from rejection, you won't get anywhere. Take a chance and have some fun. If he or she doesn't respond, move on.
  • Be bold. Don't stand around for an hour debating the pros and cons of whether or not he's interested or if you should approach, just do it. Imagine how good you feel when someone approaches to flirt with you. Even if you're not interested, it's great to be noticed. Return the favor and be brave!
  • Be confident. Don't look around or approach someone thinking that you'll be rejected. Go forward with confidence. Let them know you're interested. Confidence is attractive to everyone.
  • Don't put too much stake in the response. Again, making the first move takes practice. You won't always be successful. This is not a reflection of you. Everyone has different tastes, so respect their choice and move on. You don't even know them, so there's nothing to lose!
  • Be aware of body language. So many women are guilty of avoiding eye contact or crossing their arms when they're nervous or self-conscious. Unfortunately, this sends a signal to men that you aren't interested. Again, be bold and make eye contact. This is usually the first move to give permission to approach.

Happy dating!