How to Flirt Online
- Sunday, July 18 2010 @ 02:49 pm
- Contributed by: DatingBlogger
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Online dating is all about presentation and those initial missives to a potential match. Attention spans can vary, especially without the added stimulus of a physical presence. Your online content needs to be quick to the point, saucy, and insatiable. Furthermore, once you’ve hooked the catch, your online correspondence needs to maintain his or her attention. Here are some tips on how to flirt with someone you’ve never met!
Express interest in his or her life by commenting on likes and interests and asking questions about their lives. The age-old saying is true: interested is interesting. By asking a person to open him or herself to you, you immediately engage their attention because they’re talking about something they’re already interested in.
Give compliments -- but don’t overdo it. Although almost everyone loves a little flattery, overdoing it could make a person uncomfortable or suspicious of your motivations. For instance: I once went out on a first date and my companion spent nearly the entire time complimenting me. While I don’t doubt that his comments were genuine, I felt that he was trying to manipulate me into being charmed by him through the flattery, which was a huge turn off. Where one or two compliments would have been sufficient, he overdid it, lost my attention, and didn’t tell me anything about himself in the process.
Instead, flatter by commenting on things that they’ve already expressed interest in. If they’re really into tennis, you could easily use that information to your advantage by commenting something to the effect of “I bet you look great on the tennis court,” or “I’d love to watch/play with you sometime.” By choosing to compliment and remark on something they’ve already expressed interest in, it will not only be meaningful to them, but also express that you’ve been paying attention and present a possible first date activity!
The biggest tip to take away, truly, is to take an active interest in the person with whom you’re messaging. Step outside yourself and consider how you would want someone to flirt with you; chances are, other people are eager for the same type of attention.
And lastly, charm your romantic interest by being yourself! Your individuality will speak the loudest to any potential match. Your unique qualities are bound to pique the interest of potential matches.
Express interest in his or her life by commenting on likes and interests and asking questions about their lives. The age-old saying is true: interested is interesting. By asking a person to open him or herself to you, you immediately engage their attention because they’re talking about something they’re already interested in.
Give compliments -- but don’t overdo it. Although almost everyone loves a little flattery, overdoing it could make a person uncomfortable or suspicious of your motivations. For instance: I once went out on a first date and my companion spent nearly the entire time complimenting me. While I don’t doubt that his comments were genuine, I felt that he was trying to manipulate me into being charmed by him through the flattery, which was a huge turn off. Where one or two compliments would have been sufficient, he overdid it, lost my attention, and didn’t tell me anything about himself in the process.
Instead, flatter by commenting on things that they’ve already expressed interest in. If they’re really into tennis, you could easily use that information to your advantage by commenting something to the effect of “I bet you look great on the tennis court,” or “I’d love to watch/play with you sometime.” By choosing to compliment and remark on something they’ve already expressed interest in, it will not only be meaningful to them, but also express that you’ve been paying attention and present a possible first date activity!
The biggest tip to take away, truly, is to take an active interest in the person with whom you’re messaging. Step outside yourself and consider how you would want someone to flirt with you; chances are, other people are eager for the same type of attention.
And lastly, charm your romantic interest by being yourself! Your individuality will speak the loudest to any potential match. Your unique qualities are bound to pique the interest of potential matches.
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