How do You Attract Women?

Perhaps you're wondering why your friend seems to have no trouble getting a date, even though he's not looking for a girlfriend. For you, it is more difficult. You can approach women at the bar, but they seem standoffish. Or perhaps you've tried online dating but can't seem to connect.

If you're wondering why a nice guy like yourself can't seem to catch a break, or think that all women are only after rich, handsome players think again. Women are looking to connect as much as you are. Following are a few tips for attracting them to you:

Be bold. Most women still expect men to approach them in social situations. If you're waiting for them to talk to you, you could be waiting a long time. Go up to her and offer to buy her a drink and strike up a conversation.

Be confident. Women are attracted to confident men. If you're feeling insecure, instead of trying to hide your weaknesses, remind yourself of your strengths and emphasize those. I don't mean bragging about your career or sexual prowess! I mean, if you're a good listener, ask questions. If you're funny, bring out your sense of humor. If you engage, women respond.

Be light-hearted. If you can't resist talking about your ex or problems you're having at work, then don't expect much to happen in your love life. Most women aren't interested in your past, they want to know what you can offer them in a relationship. They want to know you are fun, smart and funny. Keep the conversation light and flirty.

Remember your manners. I've been out with a lot of men who talked with their mouths full, walked in front of me, didn't offer to buy me a drink, answered their phones during dinner...you get the picture. Remember that consideration goes a long way.

Don't look around at all the other women in the room. This may seem like a no-brainer, but most men aren't aware they do this while they are talking to a woman. Maybe they look around because of nerves, but we assume that they are looking at other women and seeing who else they can approach. This can kill attraction before it even starts. If you want to be successful, give a woman your full attention and resist the urge to turn your head when a beautiful blonde walks by.