How Can I Meet More People?

Are you having a hard time meeting people, even though you've joined two or three online dating sites? Well, it's time to expand your search and take advantage of offline opportunities as well. Following are a few ideas to get you started.

De-filter your online search. Are you filtering out potential candidates because your preferences are too rigid? Instead of only looking at people who live within a ten-mile radius, or only those above 5'10", you could be missing out. Try expanding your preferences to include people outside of your typical age range, physical or career requirements for example. The results could surprise you.

Get outside. The weather is nice, so it's time to bring your dog to the local dog park and meet other dog owners. If you don't have a dog, you can walk around the neighborhood and get to know those who do. Pets are great ice-breakers for meeting people who pique your interest.

Go to class. I think cooking and wine tasting classes are two great ways to meet people. There are plenty of options that don't seem forced or stilted and offer a creative, fun environment. Check your local listings: for example, in L.A. there is a cooking class that offers a social atmosphere so you can eat and drink your creations together at a dinner party.

Tell your friends. Maybe you think all of your friends should know you're single and looking, but have you ever asked them to fix you up? If not, it's about time. It's great to tap into the network of married friends and those who work outside of your career to expand your circle. Be open to meeting new people and accepting invitations to parties, too.

Host your own party. Who says you have to wait to be invited out? Plan a party and tell your friends to each invite someone single, and you have expanded your opportunities in one night. You don't have to make it hard; host a potluck or simple cocktail party.

Be aware of what's around you. Whether you're at the grocery store, cleaners, or your favorite coffee shop, pay attention to your environment. Many of us are in a hurry and we pick the shortest lines hoping to get out ASAP. Unfortunately, this doesn't help us see opportunities that present themselves in everyday situations. You may miss the man giving you a second glance as you're barreling down the aisles, or the woman eyeing you as you order a latte. Slow down, pay attention, respond in kind, and see what happens.