His Biggest Turn-offs

When you're interested in a man, you want to make the best impression possible so things don't fizzle out before you've even gotten started. So what can you do to improve your chances? I think that attraction is organic, but relationships progress when two people get to know each other and feel they are compatible. So, it's time to be honest about some negative habits you might be displaying that might make a great guy hesitate.

In case you're wondering - please know I'm not talking about reinventing your image, ladies. Turn-offs have less to do with your physical appearance and everything to do with how you come across when you interact and engage with a man. Following are some turn-offs that have most men moving on to the next.

Lying or manipulating. Honesty is one of the most important things a man looks for in a good relationship. If you begin by lying or being secretive about your life, then there's no place to build a foundation of trust, and no real future. If you're dating other men, then let him know. There's nothing wrong with either of you dating others until you become serious. Just don't hide it.

Anger and mood swings. It's natural to get angry from time to time, but if anger is your dominant emotion, or if you tend to bottle it up and then let it out in a tirade of emotional outbursts, this is not healthy for any relationship. Keep an open line of communication, and don't hold grudges or keep bringing up mistakes or trangressions of your past relationships. He's not your ex.

Not treating others with respect. I paid attention to how my dates treated waiters and bartenders. I don't have much patience for people who make others feel bad or inferior; it's just mean behavior. Everyone wants to be treated with respect. If you don't show this to everyone around you then your date may wonder if you'll treat him poorly, too.

High maintenance. There's no need to wear fake eyelashes and hair extensions on your dates, or to cop an attitude that you're better than other women. Most men prefer a woman's natural features, and assume you're going to be high maintenance if you come across looking too made up or act too aggressively. They will shy away from women who seem too needy or overbearing.

Unhappy with your circumstances. Many of us women are always looking for something - whether it's success in our careers, a husband, romance, or recognition of some sort. Maybe you haven't achieved some of these goals, but if you dwell in what you don't have instead of focusing on what you do, then you may appear unhappy or - and I don't like this term - "jaded" to your dates. I encourage you to approach each date as a new experience, and to adopt an outlook of gratitude for what you have accomplished and what you currently have in your life. Shifting your perspective will help with all of the men you meet, and will bring you more quickly towards a fulfilling relationship.