Hey Guys: the Key to a Successful First Date

You asked for her number and now you're going out on your first date together. She's really attractive, so you're feeling nervous. You want to make a good impression and stand out from the other guys she might be dating. (Or maybe you just don't want to screw things up.)

Following are some tips to ensure your date goes smoothly and you've got her interested in seeing you again...and again:

Planning. The first step in a successful date happens before you even leave the house. Planning the date is key. If you try to wing it and ask her where she wants to go or what she wants to do when you pick her up, you've lost before you've even started. If you've had a few conversations, hopefully you've picked up on some things she likes - whether it's going for cocktails or hiking on a Saturday morning. If you haven't don't worry - just make sure you pick a place to go and don't put the work on her. Being a planner means you're confident and you're taking care of things. A woman likes these traits in any man.

Dress for success. There's no need for expensive clothes, but if you want to impress a girl, don't show up to your first date wearing your comfortable shorts and flip flops (unless you're going to the beach). Put some effort into how you look, because she will. If you aren't sure, then ask a female friend to help you out.

Engage in conversation. All this means is - listen to her and ask questions. This isn't a job interview, so don't go into a date with a list of your qualifications or try to "sell" her on how great a guy you are. Just be present - ask questions and listen to her answers. This will go a long way in building up a connection, which is a lot more important to most women than your resume.

Don't go in for the kiss unless you know she wants it. I know it's tempting, but don't try and save a date that's not going so well by kissing her or trying to get physical. A woman has to feel the attraction first. If you aren't sure if she'll go for a kiss, then don't do it. Instead, ask her out on the next date - and mention someplace she likes to go (if you asked her during the date you'll have a few ideas).

Follow up. At the end of the date, ask her out. Then make specific plans (like picking a day and having an idea of where to go.) Text her afterwards that you enjoyed the date. The more consistent you are with following up, the more likely she'll agree to that second date.