Gain Your Dating Confidence

You're getting ready for a first date: you're concerned about what to wear, what you'll talk about, and if you'll find a connection. You wonder what you'll think of your date, and more to the point, what she'll think of you. No small feat.

Dating can be nerve-wracking, but it doesn't have to be. Instead of dreading a first date and how you'll come across, try these tips to get the confidence you need to make a good first impression. (Remember, it's not a job interview!)

• Revamp your online profile. A well-crafted online profile is a good start to attracting more and better matches. If describing yourself isn't your strong suit, have a friend check it over and help you write a description to show your best self.

• Dress for success. The best way to feel confident right off the bat is to know you look good. No need to get fancy or buy an expensive outfit, but wear something that makes you feel great.

• Practice, practice, practice! If you get nervous on first dates, the best strategy is to keep going on them until you feel more comfortable. There's always a practice curve if you're just starting. Don't get down when it doesn't work out...just chalk it up to experience for your next date. There's always opportunity to get it right.

• Don't be tempted to sell yourself. Be curious about your date. Instead of talking about yourself and feeling the need to impress, start out instead by asking your date about her interests, her goals, and anything that might inspire her. It helps you get to know her better and makes the conversation more interesting and more engaging. Asking questions also shows you off in a better light than listing your accomplishments. This is a turn-off to most.

• Follow up! The worst mistake you can make following a date is not calling back, or neglecting to send a text thanking your date for the great time. If you had a good time and are interested, it's best to let her know. Have some courage and ask your date out again. Or if you're not interested, be honest and clear about your feelings and intentions. Regardless of response, this gesture will boost your confidence and you'll be treated with kindness and respect from future dates.