Dating Mistakes Men Make

I can't pick on the ladies without pointing out some of the mistakes men make while dating. Guys...if you've found yourself attracted to a woman only to have the relationship fizzle after the first or second date, there may be something you're overlooking. Instead of getting stuck in an endless cycle of first dates, it's time to make some positive changes to improve your dating life.

Following are some mistakes to consider and avoid:

Are you cheap? Most girls don't expect you to wine and dine them at expensive restaurants on the first date unless they are high-maintenance or looking for rich guys. However, men do score points for being chivalrous as well as generous. Don't examine the bill to split it down to the penny, or leave too small a tip. Offer to pick up the tab without wincing, especially on a first date. If things go well, you'll have plenty of chances for her to reciprocate.

Do you act nervous or insecure? This is a first date after all! There's nothing to lose, so try to relax and be yourself. Women are attracted to confident men, and we are most confident when we're comfortable. If you're feeling unsure, take her to a place you go often, so that you can feel relaxed in the setting.

Do you come across as arrogant? If you start listing off all of your business successes, houses, and exotic vacations in the first fifteen minutes of the date hoping to impress her, it will backfire. Women don't like to hear a list of reasons why they should date you; they like to feel a connection. Instead of listing all your assets to win her heart, engage her in conversation. Ask her about herself and what she loves to do, and let the conversation flow.

Are you bringing your baggage to the date? Don't start the date with stories about your crazy ex, or bad dating experiences in general. If you're still bitter or hung up on an ex, she will pick up on it. Plus, who wants to hear about an ex on the first date? Remember, you are meeting her for the first time, so leave your own hang-ups at the door to give a new relationship a chance to begin.